This is the basic and main reason for divorce - it's not cheating, not even money!
The main causes of most divorces or separations are not cheating, financial problems or major differences in character. These problems stem from one of the main reasons why more and more couples are divorcing. Challenges in a relationship or marriage most often occur because partners are not investing in their relationship.
Do couples stop working on their relationship because they love each other less or because they're just lazy? There are various discussions of psychologists and "life coaches" on this topic, but certainly many studies show that any couple that does not try to preserve love and passion in a relationship is doomed to end. The flame of love must be constantly maintained through good communication, expression of feelings, tenderness and care.
The quality of your relationship or marriage depends on how much effort you put into maintaining love - this is a given for both partners. If you are constantly fighting, it does not necessarily mean that you have stopped loving each other, but that you have shifted your attention to other things instead of focusing on love.
Fast-paced life, bills, children, responsibilities - all of these require your effort or attention. But don't let that stop you from working on your love. Feelings and love can be restored, but only if you start working on them - not with words, but with actions. It is possible that one side will sometimes block these attempts and then the other side needs to motivate and encourage it!
Remember your old experiences, some more beautiful and carefree days... For example, on the way home, talk about your first date and what attracted you most about each other. Remember the dreams you had a few years ago - it's probably not too late to make them come true.
How to bring love back to a partnership/marriage?
Love is like archaeology. Sometimes you have to dig deep into your soul to find feelings and memories you've buried. Simple memories of how good you once were will reawaken love and attraction.
But what if things are much more complicated? Try repeating these 5 simple rituals every day to restore the love between you and your partner/spouse.
1. Ask your partner/spouse how their day was - show an interest in their life
2. Always kiss him when you meet and when you say goodbye - a kiss is a powerful stimulus for physical and emotional connection between people. It also serves as a reminder that you are still boyfriend and girlfriend/husband and wife. Kiss your partner/spouse when they go to work and when they come home. Make this your new habit.
3. Text him - send him a funny or romantic message during the day. Show him you're thinking of him.
4. Conversation – Every relationship requires conversation. If you don't have time, talk before bed or during breakfast. Turn off the TV and phone - focus completely on the conversation.
5. Hug – at least 30 seconds once a day. Hug your partner/spouse before going to work or going to bed. A physical hug encourages the soul and mind to make a deep connection with another person.
Research shows that cuddling lowers blood pressure and bonds you to the person you're cuddling with. It can even improve your memory! Physical touch is not just about sex.
Your relationship/marriage requires nothing but an intention to make things better. A happy family is one in which both partners/spouses understand how quickly they can lose what they have. A relationship is not destroyed by betrayal, but by apathy, many psychotherapists point out.
