The truth is often not pleasant, and sometimes it irritates us a lot - before it frees us from our illusions and allows us to feel relief.
Read these universal truths about dating - if you're feeling angry, it's because they're pulling the trigger inside of you, poking you in a hard-to-reach spot and inviting you to confront them and change things!
Whether you are single or in a relationship is up to you
You may believe that your love life is dominated by higher forces, that you are unlucky, that no one is there for you or that you are not destined to be happy, that no one understands you, and that you have to make compromises that lead you away from yourself. But the real truth is hidden inside you! Maybe you don't want a relationship at all, maybe you just want intense emotions and when you experience them, you fulfill the purpose of the relationship. But in a long-term relationship, emotions will not remain as intense as they were at the beginning, and such relationships also require compromises and adjustments and have their own dynamics of growth and development. You choose what you need, and if you don't realize it, the choices are still yours, albeit unconsciously.
The fact that you are in a relationship will not make you happy by itself
If you expect that having someone will solve your problems and bring you happiness, you are wrong. Any relationship that begins with infatuation and intense feelings is charming at first. And where there is fascination, there is disappointment next. When this period passes and you face the reality of the demands that love places before you, everything no longer goes smoothly and by itself. If you want to be happy in a relationship, you need to be happy with yourself, be mature, whole and ready to put the same effort into building, maturing and healing the relationship as you put into yourself.
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You are not alone because "all the good ones are already taken"
Does this mean that you are also not "good" because you are single? You may have less chance of meeting someone because you move in a narrow circle of people, but that doesn't mean that there isn't someone out there for you and you can't possibly meet them. You will increase your chances of meeting someone by starting to move outside the known circle of people. Among the many single people who live in a similar situation to you, there is bound to be someone who is really good for you, who will be happy to meet you and make a place in your life.
In most cases, the reason why the relationship failed is the fact that you were not interested enough in that person
It's a very uncomfortable truth, but you have to face it so that you don't waste your energy in relationships where the other person isn't interested in you. It's terrible to be rejected, not to be appreciated, understood and accepted enough, but if things are like that, don't try to change them. You can't prove to anyone that they should be with you - the other person either understands and feels it, or they don't understand and feel it.
You attract what you are, not what you want, and you accept what you think you deserve
If you want someone smart, caring, noble, you have to be sure that you are like that yourself. You will attract someone who is a mirror of who you really are, and not what you want. If you accept less than you deserve, it's because deep down you don't believe you deserve better. And this is a truth that will not only anger you, it will trample your ego. This means that you need to think carefully and focus on yourself, build your values and develop your personality.
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