One of the most common reasons for quarrels in relationships is that one of the partners does not agree with the actions of the other, while the other does not want his behavior despite promises. cannot change. Of course, it depends on the situation how justified the first person's expectations are, but according to experts, the conclusion is usually the same: the two partners realize that they will not be able to change each other if they themselves are not ready for it.
It used to be considered a relationship opportunity, that one of the other's partners change for the better. However, experts have long noted that unfortunately it's not like that– yes, people experience in life certain changes, but we have to for them decide for yourself.
No matter how like you have a partner, he will only change when he is up to it ready or for that he feels the need himself.
Are you and your partner both ready for change? Photo: Monstera / PexelsWhat should you pay attention to before a relationship?
Sometimes we feel strong romantic feelings to the person with us doesn't have much in common. Of course, we cannot influence this, but we can let's decide, shall we start with this person serious attitude. Therefore, it is very important that with the union no let's hurry, but first we convince, who is actually our chosen one and whether his habits, principles and views on the world they match with ours.
Experts also advise that before starting a relationship let's talk, how is the relationship and the future in general represent: yes, in a relationship you can we progress personally, but you should keep in mind that changes are only possible if the partner is too sees a need according to them. But if he imagines life entirely otherwise, as you yourself, then it is better to be in such a relationship you don't let go.
In a happy relationship, the partners have the same idea of the future Photo: Jonathan Borba / PexelsWhen to leave and when to work on the relationship?
So what to do if you are certain conduct partner it disturbs? Of course, in this case it is good, yes speak up and your opinion express clearly. In doing so, be careful to preserve respect and that you will focus on own feelings: no partner accuse, but explain to him how he feels about his actions you feel. Also ask him how to the situation he looks: if with you agrees and is ready make an effort, then this is a sign that you do not need a relationship to give up– of course, this only applies if your partner keeps his word it actually stands.
What if you notice that the partner reason for changes can't see and looks at your relationship a completely different way like you? Then all you have to do is yes rate it, what role does this behavior play for you. If it's about a trifle, which you have prepared to accept, then do it and renewed conflicts you are not starting.
But what if you know for yourself that reconcile you just won't be able to make your partner behave for you not allowed? Then it's time to relationship leave it: life is too short to spend it with the person with whom happy future together you don't have.
