At the beginning of a relationship, it can be difficult to find a balance between love and friendship, but once you get it right, it will pay off in the long run.
It's perfectly normal to be at the beginning of a relationship paid more attention to their partner. Butterflies in the stomach, smile on the face, head in the clouds - it's not even strange, right? However, if you've been "spending" all your energy on your partner for years and years, without devoting even a fraction of it to friendships, it's time to ask yourself, what makes you unable to balance.
Relationship experts say that for most couples in a HEALTHY relationship, partnering becomes comfortable area, from which they do not want to leave, because there they get everything they need (friendship, parental, partner love...) and as a result they no longer feel the need to socializing with other people. There's nothing wrong with that, as they say, but it should be much better for your mental health, to maintain and nurture friendly relations, because this will help you LONG TERM paid off.
Actions like these will make you lose friends:
You often cancel plans with friends because you want to spend time with your partner.
As we have already mentioned, at the beginning of a relationship, it is kind of clear that you will want to spend as much time as possible with your better half. But if this has been going on for years and years, it's time to strike a balance that is the key to healthy relationships.
If you know people you can call your friends, show them that by your actions. True friends will understand your situation, but they will also quietly judge you (such is life) because they can be hurt, because you never have time for them. Like love, friendships need to be nurtured, otherwise you will run out of people you call friends.
Learn things you should know about your friends on social media.
Admittedly, social networks are a construct, but many times they have also proven to be a great source of information about your loved ones. And if you find out some important information there (related to work, family, love status), you should really ask yourself if your love relationship affected the bond you had with your friends.
In the company of friends, you only talk about your relationship.
It is normal for friends to exchange information about their private lives, give advice and enjoy telling each other about their adventures, but it does not make sense that this the only topic of your conversation.
It is important to talk about other aspects of your life as well. Ask your friends about their lives. And always be mindful of their feelings. If you are in a happy relationship, doing a job that makes you happy, or living in your dream apartment, maybe your friends do NOT, so don't brag about your happiness if you see how unhappy your friends are. Be their encouragement!
Your partner encourages you NOT to spend time with friends (and family).
If you have such a person by your side, it could be a sign that yes you are dealing with a manipulator. People who abuse your emotions tend to subtly try to control your every move. Over time, when you get an aversion to socializing, they will try to convince you that you are the one who wanted to limit contact with loved ones.
Such people are also usually jealous of friends (and family). And even if it seems romantic, it is DANGEROUS. This is by no means normal. Every person needs family, friends, colleagues, like-minded people. If he forbids you, you are obviously dealing with a person who wants you wants to control.
