Find a confusing explanation of this complex issue from a man's point of view. Men often don't know what they want. They tell the story that they didn't want anything serious, just fun with no strings attached, and then they fell in love completely unexpectedly. However, there are also those who are looking for love but find that they are too used to being alone and cannot change their lifestyle.
Always take with a grain of salt the information a man gives about himself or about what he has posted on social networks. It just means that he thinks so right now. Men approach dating with this current attitude.
They tell the woman that she is attractive and that they have a good time with her. But that just means that they feel that way at that moment and that they don't really care. Because of this, women often make the mistake of interpreting his language of the moment with their language of intentions and accepting his current attention as an assumption for the future. They believe that they have established an important connection with someone that will develop, and he stops thinking about her the moment he no longer sees her.
The woman does not deal with it, and when she realizes the mistake, she is hurt. She feels betrayed and rejected. She believed that a relationship meant the same to a man as it did to her. He feels that something is wrong. They have good sex, but somehow everything doesn't materialize fast enough. They have a good time when they are together, but she is excluded from his life.
It is difficult for a woman to accept that she wants something completely different from what a man wants. And that they are just two people going in the same direction for a while.
A woman thinks one thing, a man another. Photo: Sharon McCutcheon/Unsplash
A woman has to ask herself, what if what a man does doesn't even mean what she wants it to mean?
A man who is ready for a relationship and wants to find a woman to fall in love with actively starts searching through the Internet, through friends, arranged meetings. He meets attractive women and goes out with them, thinking about what will happen. Will he sleep with any of these women or will he only do so if he is really interested?
If more women are interested in him, is he visiting them to see where it will get him, does that make him dishonest or a bad person? Can he even talk about it with women? How does he tell a woman he may have already had sex with and really likes, that in the meantime he continues to actively date two women he also likes (and hopes to sleep with as well)?
How can he tell a woman that he's not ready to commit but would like to see her occasionally?
A man looking for love and a relationship is by no means above lust and the passions of the moment. He will not resist them, because some passion can temporarily blind him and he gets involved in a relationship that he did not want. But he will always know that this is not what he asked for and will remain open to what he is looking for. And the person with whom he became involved in a passionate romance will remain disappointed, betrayed and rejected.
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A man doesn't want to hurt a woman, she doesn't want to be hurt, and yet it seems that what we don't want happens most of the time.
Men are said to be drawn to the moment the story unfolds and participate. At the same time, they are not sure if they want a deeper connection with the person they are attracted to.
Men play with women's hearts, even though they don't want these toys in any way. They just want to talk to someone, feel good, hang out, have a good intimate relationship with human warmth.
If this is too confusing and you don't know how to navigate this emotional minefield, know that the right woman at the right time can make a man stop playing and make a real commitment.
