Life becomes incredibly complicated when a stranger wants to hug you. You only feel disgust, disgust and fear. Why is this happening?
If you don't like hugs, then you probably know how bad it is when you have to grit your teeth and 'jump' into a hug. Or somehow avoid him with a handshake or a kiss. Because of this particular phenomenon, they are American scientists tried to figure out what provokes resistance in people, when they have to touch and hug.
Scientists they determine, that should be the reason for the resistance to hugs and touches hid in education. If there are adults in your environment hated hugging, it's very likely that you will be too. Propensity for physical contact – patting the head and shoulders, hugging or shaking hands – it is the result of experience, which the child has in childhood. Children who grew up with parents who caressed or hugged, continued this 'tradition' into adulthood. Hugging is such a part emotional upbringing of children.
However, scientists at the same time they claim, that there are also people who otherwise don't hug each other much, but hugs have a positive effect on them. Precisely those children who were not hugged enough in childhood, they strongly desire physical contact.
We must not forget about cultural elements, when we talk about touching and hugging between people. Thus, they cite the example of Americans and Britons, who hug less than French or residents of Puerto Rico.
The good news, of course, is that the resistance to hugging can be overcome overcomes, scientists claim.
More information:
journals.sagepub.com
