It doesn't matter if you're in your 20s, 30s or 40s, the idea of being single will ALWAYS be terrifying - there will never be a right time to make that decision, you'll never be able to prepare for this change, and you'll spend a long time dealing with the fears you'll had to WIN sooner or later. Single life is really AKON!
When you think of the single life, your head probably spins many advantages: you will organize your space as you wish, no one will control you, you will be able to do your own activities... but on the other hand, you are so damn afraid of everything new.
No one likes change too much, so we advise you to face your fears Forget it IMMEDIATELY, because you will find that the single life is real sweet.
5 fears you MUST overcome:
"The single life is not for me."
Some people are convinced that they are not made to live alone. There's nothing wrong with this kind of thinking, but you have to ask yourself, why are you afraid of loneliness. If you can't find a valid reason, then you are only afraid of changes, differences, the foreign. It is quite clear that after years of living with your parents and siblings, you will feel lost when you come to an empty apartment, but you will get used to that too. Over time, you will realize that you need your own peace and space, and you will also become stronger - once you taste what life is like without financial help from others, it will be clear to you that you can do much more.
“I will be lonely.”
The most common fear associated with going out on your own is the fear of being alone. But the beauty of single life is that you can choose, how you will use your time: when will you dedicate it to YOURSELF, and sometimes to OTHERS. Being single doesn't mean you're lonely because the people you need in your life can always come visit you.
“I will be bored.”
Independent living is not synonymous with boredom. People say that it is in such an environment that they have become extremely productive in the field of personal development and career. Even if you were to live with a loved one, they can take away time that would otherwise help you become better. Don't worry about getting bored, because only if you live on your own will you have no restrictions on what and when you can do something.
"Everything will be too expensive."
It is true that living alone can be quite expensive, as you will spend more money on items in the apartment. In such situations, it is good to think in advance about the means available to you. It is important to learn how to handle money. Even if you don't manage to buy the things you want for one month, it will serve as a lesson in how to earn and manage more money. This experience is far more valuable than your worries that you won't succeed.
"My relationship with my family will deteriorate."
Some people think that by leaving they will hurt their loved ones (mother will be sad, father will be angry) - but in fact you will be doing them a favor. Your parents also need time and space for themselves, because they are bloody under the skin. They will be proud of you for taking such an important step in your life. Single life does not mean that you are in prison, because you can invite loved ones to visit as many times as you want.
