Life teaches you over the years that it's better to keep things to yourself. Think about it, some people are happy because you have problems, so you should not confide these secrets to anyone, because you can be left without them.
Over the years, you learn that the smartest thing to do is yes keep secrets to yourself as it makes no sense for you to expect that people will keep their mouths shut.
Secrets you shouldn't trust anyone with:
Quarrels with relatives
Washing dirty laundry in public can only bring a sense of relief and satisfaction for a short time. The very next minute you'll wish you'd kept quiet. Your relatives are the ones who are closest to you (like it or not). Sooner or later there will be some sort of agreement. The unpleasant experience of humiliating your relatives in public will not be so easily forgotten. Try to solve problems behind closed doors.
Problems with children
Parents who are always complaining about their kids look silly. After all, weren't they the ones who raised them? The next time you complain to your friends that you've had enough of your son's debts and your daughter's single life, remember this: everyone will hear their own version of this story and add some more juicy detail to it.
Number of sexual partners
While the men who get involved with more women are the true 'czars', the women on the other hand are… well, you know. Even in women's society, a girl who discloses her number of sexual partners can be labeled as 'easy', someone who does not deserve respect.
Things that turn your partner on in the bedroom.
Your partner's sexual fantasies are the most intimate part of his personality. People hardly share this information, usually only their partners have it. If you blurt out such things to your friends, you will undoubtedly lose your partner's trust, and you can only imagine how embarrassed he will be.
Infidelity
Infidelity shows serious disrespect, and the price can be the loss of a partner and family. So if you discover that your partner is cheating on you, then wait and first decide what to do (stay with your partner or not) and only then trust your friends.
Your partner's flaws and physical quirks.
When you decide on a person, accept him with all his good and bad qualities. This means always taking his side. Therefore, if you decide to reveal your partner's problems, physical peculiarities or bad habits to 'strangers', you will always only hurt yourself. People may now see your partner as a loser or a freak, and you will be no better in their eyes, at most only worse.
Financial errors
Losing money is probably one of the most painful and at the same time priceless experiences. It is important to learn from our mistakes, not to take them to the public. If you tell all your friends that you are a victim of financial fraud or something, you will admit that you are financially 'incompetent'. Of course, the story will get various additions and eventually content, and you will be an unknown individual to whom it is not safe to lend money.
Family secrets
Every family has a secret or a member who has behavioral problems. You may think your cousin's drug addiction is a great story, but be aware of one thing: it will mark him for the rest of his life.
Like everything else, friendships have an expiration date. Over time, the relationship may cool, and you may drift apart. It is for this reason that you may one day regret sharing a secret. That's why do not rush and think twice, what and who you trust.
