There are truths that are not easy to hear, and one of them is that your habits and beliefs can be influencing you to not be able to have a healthy and happy relationship.
As long as you have some of the behaviors listed below, there will always be some problem in the relationship.
You want a relationship so badly that you don't choose who you start it with
It's okay to want a relationship, and there's nothing wrong with wanting romantic love. We are all living beings and need this kind of love. Don't feel guilty about it.
On the other hand, no matter how much you want love, you have to be careful who you spend your time with. Of course, at first, few people know who is good for them or not. So when you notice a problem behavior or something you don't like, don't ever expect it to change, or worse, to change it. If this behavior is a problem for you, it's best to get out of the relationship before you get hurt.
You are not in the habit of talking about your needs
When you're in a relationship, you love to please your partner, so much so that you completely forget about your own needs. You are putting yourself in the background.
Some people have a habit of not talking about their needs and expect others to be able to read their minds. It can be expected in advance that someone knows how you feel, what you think and what you want to say.
Regardless, it's always important to say what you want, what you think needs to be fixed. And this applies not only to the relationship, but to all relationships that are important to you. There is no substitute for good communication.
You expect a perfect relationship
No one is perfect, so it is impossible to have perfect relationships. You are not perfect yourself, so it is unrealistic to expect that all your dreams of a perfect relationship will come true. Of course, you need to have your own standards, something that is very important to you in a relationship and that you don't want to give up.
But, everything will never be as you imagined and you will have to agree to certain compromises, because true love and a healthy relationship are more important than your fantasies. Think about what you would like to negotiate and what can change.
You don't like your body
Self-love is the basis of love for someone else, and if you don't feel good about your body, you probably won't feel comfortable with your partner and you'll constantly think about how you are, whether your partner sees your flaws.
You will not be able to relax and you will always be in a spasm. The good news is that your attitude towards your body is something you can work on. Whatever you look like - you have to love yourself and accept the fact that you will never look perfect.
Think happiness is the goal, not the path
You are always waiting for something - more free time, a better salary, another job, a body that will make you feel better and think that you will be happy only when you achieve all these - so you will never be happy. Happiness is not the goal.
You have to work on feeling happy even when you don't have all these things, because the different things you want are not only dependent on you, but on various other factors beyond your control. Do what you can and you will feel happy.
All these habits and beliefs will not only prevent you from having a happy relationship, but also from a happy life.
