Solid, tall. Perfect, with no chance of anyone succeeding in knocking it down. You mean, it's going to stay there forever. Especially when you are in the process of healing from past heartaches.
You want to process what happened to you before you are ready to welcome another person into your life. You don't want to jump into a new relationship too quickly. Especially if you were in a toxic relationship in your last relationship, it's about building and maintaining the wall around the heart - good idea.
It can protect you from being attached to someone else with bad intentions. It can protect you from falling into the same old patterns. And before history repeats itself.
When you are vulnerable, the wall allows you to be cautious. It allows you to move at a speed that makes you feel comfortable. It allows you to see someone's true colors before you give them your heart.
Sometimes you have to take precautions to protect yourself. Sometimes there is nothing wrong with taking the time to get to know someone, trust them, love them. Sometimes the walls are there to save you.
And you must know when to tear down those walls. When to say enough is enough, that they no longer serve a purpose, that they stop suffocating you. You realize you've been careful for long enough and it's finally time to take a risk and let someone close to your heart.
Even though you feel safe behind the walls, you have to learn how to recognize when it's time to step out of the safe embrace. Your walls must not be permanent. They must not reject people who have proven to them in various ways that they can be trusted. The ones who have proven to you that they really care about you. And those who have proven that they won't hurt you like the people of the past have.
Don't hide anymore. Slowly peek over your walls. Do not be afraid. Photo: Colt Kam / UnsplashIf you don't let them get to you for too long, you can cause as much damage as if you hadn't built any walls at all. You can lose the right people and be lonely. They can prevent you from finding true love, selfless love. The way you wish you'd found her sooner, before you protected your heart.
Remembering that sometimes these walls will protect you from heartache. Other times, they will cause you heartache. So you have to be careful. Don't leave them too long. Don't hide behind them.
Don't push away someone who you know will make you happy, someone who has never done anything bad to you. Someone who deserves a real chance. Do not lock your heart without any intention of opening it again.
Breaking down walls takes time. You won't magically transform from a skeptic to a romantic person. You won't knock them down overnight. They will go down slowly as you get to know them. You will slowly start to trust this person. You will slowly open up to her and confide in them things you haven't told anyone before.
Love will not change you into a completely new person. The walls will disappear. You will still have luggage. You will still be – you.
