We all argue at some point, no matter what kind of relationship we're in. Believe it or not, there is nothing wrong with that, quite the opposite. It is a rule that partners in relationships that have no future sweep all problems under the carpet and then suddenly, to the surprise of those around them, break up.
It is important how you react to misunderstandings, criticism, different opinions that you face in a partnership. Do you talk about problems as soon as they arise? Do you pretend to be happy, but in reality you want to say something bold to your partner, but you don't want to spoil the ideal relationship? Don't let fighting become your everyday life. Rather, build your partnership through constructive criticism.
It's true, no one likes to hear the things they're doing wrong in the other person's eyes, but accepting your mistakes and your partner's mistakes and learning from them is the key to a happy partnership.
Arguments should never escalate into a deeper conflict, so it is recommended that you avoid doing the following 5 things when arguing with your partner.
Error no. 1: Arguing about several things at once
You know how that goes, right? Let's say you scolded your partner because, in your opinion, she spent too much time getting ready for going out. And she reprimanded you for picking up your socks on the bedroom floor after you. And so on in a vicious circle. Instead of focusing on one problem, you jump from topic to topic, preventing you from reaching any kind of compromise.
Error no. 2: Interruption of communication
Ignoring the conversation. Do not answer his/her call or message. You don't want to have a conversation in the shared home that you want to show disapproval of actual or intentional slights you've experienced from your partner. But this does not solve anything and only creates additional resentment.
Be direct, explain to your partner how you feel, and give them the opportunity to resolve matters in a calm and satisfactory manner.
Error no. 3: Arguing in the wrong place
Arguing in a public place is definitely not desirable, not even at your partner's or your parents' house or in the company of friends. This only creates an additional reason for anger, which will almost certainly lead to another fight upon returning home.
Error no. 4: Blackmail and threats
"If you do this again, I will leave you!" This is a phrase many of you have probably heard before. It is uttered by a person who is so angry that at that moment he is ready to sacrifice the relationship, just to harm his partner. Blackmail and threats to leave are completely counterproductive, as they put one partner in a subordinate position. And there is a possibility that he will eventually start behaving in the same way.
Error no. 5: Using difficult words
No matter how angry you are with your partner, do not use harsh words. Even if you don't really mean what you say to him, make sure your insults don't stick in his memory and eventually drive him away from you. When you and your partner are arguing, you need to keep a cool head and not allow all possible emotions to overwhelm you. Emotions that can make you cross the point that only leads to a breakup.
Let the fights, small or big, not define your relationship, but those little things that can make your relationship better for each other every day. Don't ignore, but hug and kiss your partner.
