Are you tired of your partner lying to you day after day? He says he's working late at night, but in reality he stopped at a pub for a beer. He's always lying about the little things, which makes you seriously wonder if he's lying about everything. Does he even like you?
There are many reasons for this behavior and the worst part is that most women do the same. Therefore, you should not be too strict with them, at least until you find out the real reasons for such behavior.
To begin with, find out which lies men tell most often in order to better understand them and try to create a more honest relationship and better communication in the relationship.
1. Men lie to avoid unnecessary "drama"
Have you ever reacted rashly when he told you honestly what he wants and expects from you and your relationship? Would it be easier if I just kept some things quiet? For peace in the house, men often keep some things to themselves.
If he is capable enough to tell a blatant lie to not hurt you, but also to make his life easier, why would he even want to tell you the truth? The same goes for women. Both want to avoid problems and keep things simple.
2. Men lie to avoid being caught
No one wants to be caught doing things they shouldn't be doing. Again, this applies to both men and women. However, men have the power to blame a woman for their mistakes and moments of weakness. He will use any excuse he can think of to get away with it, but his main excuse will be that he didn't want to hurt your feelings.
Drinking with friends shuts you up. Photo: Kats Weil/UnsplashStill, the bottom line is that he lied because he didn't want to incur your wrath after you caught him in a lie. If you catch him doing something he shouldn't, know that he didn't even think about whether or not he was going to hurt you. He lied because he wanted to save his own skin and avoid an argument with you. There's not much philosophy here, and there's no excuse for this kind of behavior.
3. Men lie to get out of obligations
He will find countless excuses to escape from everyday household chores and obligations. If you ask him to drop by the store when he's done, don't be surprised if he suddenly has to stay longer at work. Or maybe he forgot to do his share of the housework because he already knows you'll do it for him. Why would he take out the trash or pay the utility bill if he knows that you will end up doing it anyway?
Men don't like it when you force them to do things they don't want to do. The more you push him, the more excuses he will find. The best way is to make a list of duties and responsibilities and when he is in a good mood and relaxed, present him with his part of the chores.
4. Men lie, based on negative past experiences
Men who have had negative experiences with ex-partners often lie to their current partners to avoid problems. For example, if his ex resented him for hanging out with his friends frequently, he will be willing to lie to you about it.
He is insecure. Photo: Drew Hay/UnsplashIf he tells you that he's staying longer at work, there's a good chance he's somewhere watching a game with his friends. In this case, he's not telling the truth because your transition was causing him problems and he doesn't want to go through the same thing with you.
5. Men lie because they are insecure
Sometimes men lie because they don't know how they would behave if they knew the real situation. He wants to impress you, so he keeps quiet about things that don't benefit him. An insecure man will lie about his age or job. He will often post a picture on social media in which he is at least ten years younger, probably from a time when his hair was not yet gray and he was ten kilograms lighter.
It is normal for someone to be insecure, but lying about personal matters is not the best way to achieve a quality and stable relationship. A man who lies about small things will surely lie about bigger and more important things.
