It has happened to all of us that we confided in our partner our feelings, opinions or simply something that happened to us that day, but we got the feeling that he is not listening to us at all. And since feelings of not being heard can lead to misunderstandings or even conflicts in the relationship all too quickly, we have prepared for you 5 ways to talk to your partner so that he really listens.
1. Choose the right time for the conversation
If you want to share with your partner important news or with him resolve the misunderstanding, it is important to select for this right time. That means don't approach him when he's in the middle work fever or below by strong pressure. Also, avoid difficult conversations when both of you are together exhausted at the end of the working day and when the partner is watching television program, which means a lot to him.
Instead, we suggest that your partner first you say, that you want to take that day some time to talk and Mrs ask, when I would be most ready for it.
2. Stick to the point
Sometimes in communication we lose because one is perfectly clear about what it is the crux of the problem, and the other is not sure which thing he actually has to go to focus. So be careful not to overdo it deviated from the essence and that you will be a partner clearly shown, what of him you expect and what it is main reason, that you need to talk.
If you want to introduce him problem, which appeared in your relationship, also be careful not to drag it out past problems, which they have already resolved.
3. Make your wishes clear
Because we are each other different, sometimes it happens that we do not understand what exactly the other person wants from us to communicate. Therefore, be careful to express your wishes as much as possible direct: this means that you do not start sentences with "It seems to me that...", "Maybe..." and similar words, which will not show your intention on clear way.
That's the only way to avoid it misinterpretation, in which the partner could think that you are only with him share your opinion and changes from it you don't expect.
4. When you have agreed on something, end the conversation
No, we do not advise you that after the end of the conversation you walk away from the room. We only recommend that after conclusion of an agreement with that topic finish, but above all, you don't initiate a partner to accuse or express doubts that it will be theirs kept his promises.
In this way, you can cause the conflict started over, and besides, you wouldn't feel the best either if your partner let you know that your words he doesn't believe.
5. Be a good listener yourself
You must not forget that they are for communication both responsible with a partner. Hence the application a good listener take charge yourself: when you feel that your partner wants you confess, let him know that you will stood by. So does him listen up even if he thinks you should do something in your relationship improve or resolve. Even if it's yours different opinion, wait until your view first partner expresses, and only then say what the situation is you perceive yourself.
It is also important that the partner you show on a daily basis, that you his feelings and experiences they are interested.
