Have you finally found yourself in the healthy, solid relationship you've been dreaming of for so long? You may have expected to finally settle down, but you're faced time and time again with worries that the relationship won't last. We assure you that the relationship, which both partners are working hard for, often does not require such fears, but to make it even easier for you, we have prepared for you 6 habits that you must get rid of if you want a long-lasting relationship.
1. Let go of the belief that the relationship won't last
If you are used to it toxic relationships and partners, whose emotions are constant was changing, then it is normal that in a new relationship you meet with anxiety. However, if you want the relationship to work, you need to get rid of it beliefs, that it will be sooner or later the end. If you don't, you will be every problem perceived as confirming your negative thoughts and you will, instead of being with her faced and tried it to solve, above the union simply gave up.
Yes, sometimes things don't work out they come out as you would it wanted, yet you have to go into the relationship believing that it is most problems are solvable and that you will made an effort, that it will be the relationship lasted.
2. Forget about playing games
For unhealthy relationships it is typical for partners to they hide their feelings, to each other they take revenge and sincerity and they avoid vulnerability. Yes, there are such patterns hard to get rid of, but if you want a long-lasting and healthy relationship, you have to take it new ways of behaving.
That means yes to your partner clear, sincerely and you say respectfully, if with him you don't agree or if you are his behavior hurt. Remember: your chosen one to you he can't read minds and various unhealthy games will quickly change the relationship from healthy to toxic or caused his the end.
3. Don't think love is all you need
Yes, love it is the foundation for every relationship, but by no means it does not represent everything, what they need. In addition to the emotions that connect you, a healthy relationship also requires others virtues, such as communication, confidence, respect... Without being ready for a relationship make an effort and on it to work on a daily basis, even the greatest love will not help you.
Many couples who are already together very long, they will also tell you that sometimes you have to fight for love make a conscious decision and to love a person exactly as it is, and not his idealized images.
4. Stop harboring unhealthy jealousy
If in past relationships you met with editions and scams, you may have trouble when it comes to perfect of trust partner. However, you should be aware that without it, a healthy relationship cannot be successful and yes constant checking and controlling your partner's exits and communication will not bring anything good to your relationship.
The same applies if you notice that it is a sickly jealous partner. Then it is necessary to be with him talk and you let him see that you see only him and yes reason not for his jealousy. At the same time, explain to him in a nice way that you do unhealthy controls from his side you will not tolerate.
5. Know what you deserve
If we are from relations from the primary family and past relationships used to getting much less than we deserve, we may be afraid of our partner to show, what you really are we want. Yes, nobody is perfect, but that doesn't mean that your chosen one doesn't have to treat you respectfully and lovingly and show you with actions that you do ready to stand by.
If you are speechless reconciled with a relationship that doesn't work for you, the moment will soon come when they will be yours emotions burst into the day or you will simply notice that in relation you are no longer happy.
6. Get rid of the idea that you need a relationship to be happy
Fear, to express their own opinion or partner asked for help or changes, often also comes from fear of loneliness. This can also cause your life fully adjust to your partner's and slowly you get the feeling that own identity you don't have any more - and that doesn't benefit either the relationship or yourself.
You must realize that you are quite enough for themselves and yes for luck you don't need a relationship. Yes, a healthy relationship can existing satisfaction increases and bring you a lot wonderful moments, but it does not mean that without her we wouldn't be able to.
