"Most of what you think you know about me is nothing but memories." - Haruki Murakami
Let bygones be bygones unless the feelings are mutual.
Why is it not good to get involved with your ex again?
1. Emotions will be involved
You might think it's just a one-off. That it's a purely physical thing. Or that nothing serious will come of it. Really? This is someone you used to be with. They have a history. Either you will get hurt or you will hurt him. Someone will come out of this with a broken heart, so it's better to keep your distance from them.
2. You can create a better orgasm yourself
Do you really want to hook up with him when there's a good chance he'll end up orgasming and you'll feel unfulfilled? You probably know how to please yourself much more than your ex-partner. You know where you want to touch. You know what turns you on. You don't need it.
3. You will destroy your recovery process
It must not have been easy to get over this person. Maybe you haven't gotten over it yet. Either way, sleeping with her will ruin your progress. You may be learning how to live without her now, but getting into bed with her will remind you of all the reasons you loved her. You will miss her. You'll wish we were back together. If you may have gotten over it and think there is nothing wrong with it, it is not. You will open already healed wounds and complicate your life.
4. You deserve to move on
Every second you spend with your ex is a second you can spend with someone else. You could be somewhere, anywhere, looking for the love of your life. You could flirt with cute strangers. You might be developing a deep solid relationship with someone who won't hurt you. It's over. Focus on making the relationship with someone else more successful. Stop living in the past and explore your future.
5. It ruins your chances of remaining friends
They were a couple. Then maybe they were friends. And now they sleep together. It really breaks all the boundaries. Your friendship turns into something more. It's clear that you had a strong connection with this person, so you need to decide what you want from them. Do you want to get back together? Or do you want to move away from it?
6. There are other men
There are other hearts. Other bodies. Don't run into the past because you're comfortable there. Your ex-partner isn't the only person you're attracted to. He is not the only person who can love you. There are many other people who would like to be with you, but you have to give them a chance. And the first step is to say goodbye to ex-people.
