Surrender to the world of feelings and love.
Tantric intercourse involves connecting partners on a deeper level, energy exchange and spiritual unity. In this way of making love, the goal is not to experience a climax, but to enjoy the process, to monitor and feel everything that is happening in and with you, and to share this experience with your partner.
Tantric advice is especially helpful if you have difficulty climaxing and need more time, as the emphasis is on the duration of intercourse and the enjoyment of intimacy, rather than the effort to climax. In this way, one partner learns to delay his climax and prolong the duration of intercourse, while the other can relax because climax is not the goal and priority, so he will probably experience it in the end.
On the way, he will get to know and experience himself and his partner in a deeper and more intimate way than we are used to in Western culture.
Peak is not the goal
The path is much more important - enjoying sex should not be about pressure and just trying to reach climax, but simply enjoying the experience of intimacy. The feeling of bare skin, caressing, touching and kissing. Surrender to these feelings, let the excitement take over you, and when you are on the verge of climax, there is still no reason to rush anywhere - just enjoy the experience with ease and full presence.
Listen to your heartbeat
The energy of arousal passes through your heart so that it becomes the instrument of intercourse. Intimacy is what is felt in the heart, there is the center of your intimate relationship. Listen to your heart - how it beats, how it accelerates and how this growth of excitement and intensity follows your breath - you breathe faster and louder (it would be good if you don't have to worry about how loud you are, so you need conditions in which you can completely relax ).
Feel admiration for your body
Forget about how you look and whether your flaws are visible, focus on the pleasure your body gives you - it's so fantastic! In the moment of love, you are the queen/king of sexuality, beauty and god/goddess, and your partner thinks and feels the same. Feel the gratitude and love for this amazing creation – your body.
Treat your partner the same way
Explore and caress your partner's body with adoration and admiration. Then it's just the two of you - caress him and pay attention, kiss, touch every part of your partner's body while he does the same. Experience this exchange fully, give and take. Pleasure that spreads through the bodies like a tide and turns into a wave that carries you higher and more and more intense.
Extend sexual intercourse
This is what will allow you maximum relaxation and pleasure. This will give the partner a sense of control and the confidence of a lover who is in control of his body. Forget everything else! If you or your partner starts to lose control, stop, take a breather, and start again with light touches and kisses.
Be aware
Be present all the time when your thoughts and concentration escape, come back to the present moment, feel the excitement and don't think about how and when it will end, forget about time and the outside world. Treat yourself to the perfect treatment, massage, caressing, kissing, admiration, attention, love, tenderness, passion... and be one hundred percent in it. And again - take your time. You don't have to achieve anything, not even a climax!
