The latest research shows that the main source of women's stress is men.
Married women are more under stress like men. A big burden is their job and taking care of their family. They suffer more often from headaches, fatigue and negative emotions. And it turns out that husbands who do not take care of children are the main cause of these problems. According to the the study as many as 46 percent of the women questioned said that their children cause them less stress than their husbands. However, the unpleasant emotions they experience have nothing to do with infidelity or domestic violence.
How do husbands contribute to the deterioration of the wife's mental state, and what can you do to avoid stress in your marriage?
The husband behaves like a child
Many men behave like children even when they are over forty years old. This is manifested in a non-serious attitude towards the child and the questions related to him. "A seven-year-old is a seven-year-old. But a 35-year-old man who behaves like a seven-year-old boy is really intolerable, because he should be more responsible than a child." said one of the of surveyed women
Fathers usually they entertain with your children. Therefore, they experience the time they spend with them as rest and fun. Mothers take care of the upbringing, health, education and development of the child. They are more involved in his daily life, they advise and forbid more often. As a result, they appear to children strict and boring. This not only causes disputes between mother and child, but also quarrels between parents.
The solution
Be consistent. If one of the parents forbids the child, the other must support this decision. It is necessary to act together and agree in advance what is allowed and what is not. It is also important that you share the daily care of the child equally. Children cannot enroll in a sports club, go to the doctor or buy vitamins by themselves.
All this can be done by both parents together. Husbands should relieve their wives and be more involved in the daily lives of their sons and daughters. Mothers, however, can occasionally relinquish control. Sometimes it is more useful to play with a child than to constantly protect him from all possible problems.
Women are burdened with household chores
Every fifth mother claims that the absence of her husband's help in the household is a source of constant stress for her. Women spend more time on daily tasks, while men have more time to rest. Women not only cook and clean, but also pay bills, buy groceries and plan the family budget. All these daily tasks take up too much of their time and become a burden. It has been proven that House chores they cause more stress than working in an office where they feel valued and are paid for their work.
The solution
The simplest advice is for men to help their wives run the household. Even distribution duties in the house is one of the main factors of a successful marriage.
In marriage, you must always respect the work and effort of the other, because household chores are also valuable and important, even if they do not bring income. If you share them, you can do everything easier and faster, and spend the rest of the time on pleasant socializing.
Women feel guilty and suffer from lack of free time
Most of the surveyed women complain about stress and lack of time. Especially those who are employed. They do not use the evenings to rest, but to do household chores. As a result, they are tired and make mistakes. Since most of the responsibility for the home and family is on the woman, she feels wrong, when something is wrong. Guilt then causes stress and hinders the performance of daily tasks.
One of the respondents commented: "I take care of the children most of the time without my husband's involvement. And that's why I feel that if something goes wrong, it's only my fault."
The solution
So that women do not feel a lack of time and are not haunted by a sense of guilt, men should share with them not only household chores and child care, but also responsibility for the entire family. When spouses openly talk about problems, they make joint decisions and share responsibility for them - they get a sense of belonging and this helps them solve many complex tasks. Women must develop the skill of time management, because even with the constant help of their husbands, they still have a lot of important work to do in their lives.
The partner or spouse should not forget that chronic stress in the family often leads to divorce and also to deterioration of health. For this reason, it is necessary that you take care of each other and protect yourself and your partner from negative emotions.
