There are different types of infidelity. Before you figure out how to respond to infidelity, identify what type it is.
If your partner deceived, you are not alone, cheating is assumed to occur in the 25 percent of relationships. The numbers are even higher, as it is not possible to verify how many people even admit to the scam in surveys and polls.
They exist three types of infidelity and their subgroups, explains Robert J. and Karin Sternberg for Psychology Today. If you sense that something is going on in your relationship, it is important to talk to your partner about it talk openly. Before you figure out how to respond to infidelity, identify its types and subgroups.
If your partner cheated on you, you are not alone. Cheating is estimated to occur in 25 percent of relationships.1. Sexual infidelity
While some people think things are pretty straightforward (whether or not they had sex with someone else), the reality is much more complicated. Where is the border? Kissing? And what kind of kiss was it: on the cheek or a deep French kiss? Oral sex? Has sexual intercourse occurred, what are the reasons for it? Drunkenness? What else?
According to Robert J. and Karin Sternberg, sexual adulterers can be divided into several subgroups.
A) Womanizers
They are constantly on the lookout and they are looking for new opportunities. They see every woman as an opportunity for sex. It doesn't matter where they are: at work, at a party, with their partner. They collect sexual partners like other people collect stamps or cars. If you are with such a person, you better leave. Such a relationship has no future. Your partner most likely won't change.
Such people can be identified by a series of lies that they quickly fall into, come to life the moment an attractive person walks into the room, and are often not at home due to "urgent" obligations at work. You will probably be the last to know that you are being cheated on.
B) Active opportunists
They seek sexual satisfaction and validation through one night stand sexual adventures. Maybe they were at a party, maybe they were drunk, or they had an opportunity at a business dinner. They will take advantage of every opportunity that is offered to them, but they will not actively look for people like womanizers themselves.
C) Passive opportunists
They are not looking for sex, but they never do they cannot resist temptation; if an opportunity is presented to them, they take it. They may defend themselves weakly, but they will give in quickly.
D) The Avengers
They are angry. They don't care if they have sex, they want revenge for the deception and pain. People usually want equality in their relationships. They want to get as much from their partner as they have given to him. It's infidelity revenge for partner's infidelity or a response to an argument, to a real or imagined insult. They have a constant feeling that they deserve much more than they are getting in the relationship.
E) Marathon runners
They want a long-term relationship, but not with you. In an alternative relationship, they get what they feel you cannot offer them. Why do people go into long-term infidelity? They may feel that their primary relationship is lost, but they don't want to divorce because of children, religion, or money. Some people think it's normal to be intimate with several people at once. From their point of view, they get different things from each partner and do not see the additional partner as a threat to the primary relationship at all.
2. Emotional infidelity
Emotional infidelity can or it does not involve sexual relations. It occurs when a person has intense feelings for a third person. It is intimate exposure to someone who is not your partner. Such a relationship is a threat to your primary relationship, because emotions are diverted from your partner to this third party, with whom you may even be planning a future. It appears in the form of e-mail correspondence, conversations on social media networks, conversations over coffee, in most cases secretly.
3. Cognitive infidelity
Cognitive infidelity often accompanies emotional infidelity. You recognize it by the fact that your partner often talks to you about a third person and thinks that by doing so there is nothing wrong. It is possible that he often thinks about this person, or that he even is obsessed with her.
Sooner or later, opportunities for infidelity will arise. You and your partner should talk about what "infidelity" means to you. The best way to fix future problems is to prepare for them before they happen. The fact is that sexually transmitted diseases are on the rise: don't joke with your life, when you enjoy someone else's bed. It's definitely your choice, but don't care.
