Being divorced or being divorced is not the same in any way!

Divorce has become so common that we are surprised if someone is married for a long time and does not divorce. Why is that? Because of a low tolerance threshold or because of the availability of everything and superficiality, which is the killer of all good feelings? Do we really take emotions so lightly, or have they also become consumables?

The fact is that marriages are more and more short-lived, with all due respect I take exception. People are more and more cruel and do not choose the means when they want to hurt the one to whom they once promised their love.

Every ending is sad, and divorce is definitely one of the worst and most stressful. Everything in your life is changing, literally everything. People are judging less and less because they don't even have the time to keep up with all the ongoing divorces.

There is a big difference between a divorced man and a woman - that isthe same one who says this is not true is lying

In the case of divorce, in most cases, the children belong to the mother. This is no small undertaking. All those divorced women know this. A woman must be everything and be in a hundred places at once. She is overloaded with obligations and in a perpetual struggle with time. If she is lucky enough to have her family helping her, she is one of the lucky few.

She is the one who gets up before dawn and goes to bed long after midnight. If she is lucky enough not to be woken up by the children, she sleeps for a few hours.

The divorced wife and mother is a fighter because she has to be. She has no one to fight for her. She must be strong even as she heals her wounded heart and pride. She will hug her child, but she herself has no one to hug her. She's damn alone, but she doesn't let those thoughts haunt her, because she doesn't have time for them, and she doesn't have time for herself. She falls but gets up. She cries in solitude, broken by life and obligations.

But she has to go on - alone. Because if she finds someone who can heal her wounded heart and restore her confidence in love, she will be judged by those around her. All the blame for the divorce will fall on her no matter how much time has passed since the divorce. She is the one who should keep the family together at all costs, not destroy it.

Who thinks of her? Nobody? In addition to all this struggle with everyday life, there is an additional struggle with an ex-partner.

He does not forget, and in most cases never forgets to humiliate her again and again. He forgets to pay child support and acts like he's personally giving her all his assets, to her, not to his children. He often forgets or doesn't have time to pick up his kids when it's his time.

He is a free man, he got rid of all obligations, except for occasional visits to the children and paying alimony. The environment is always on his side. If he finds a new love, of course he deserves it after "the one" who made his life miserable.

In the newly acquired freedom, he can live with full lungs, he has all the freedom of this world, and only a few use it to spend more time with their children.

Getting revenge on your ex or ex should be secondary. As parents, we should think about the children and all credit to couples who rise above bad desires and act as parents.

What they couldn't solve in marriage, they solved with a divorce. Everything else should be solved with reason and not emotions. Both should have only one goal - to raise children. If they had enough love to have children, they should also have enough love to raise them.

It's not easy for either side, but it's always harder for one side. Divorce is a burden, but being a parent is a responsibility that everyone should take on.

Be an example to those you have given life to, because children imitate their parents. Keep this in mind. Everything they learn about life, they learn from you. They deserve the best parents, be that.