For a relationship to last, it needs more than just love. Most of the time, it is much more important how well the two partners match.
If you want to find out what kind of future your relationship really has, check how you and your partner match in certain basic needs - these are the needs that he identified as the most important in his theory dr. William Glasser. According to him, we are all born with 5 basic needs - for survival, love, freedom, fun and power. So we all have these needs, but they are expressed to a different extent in everyone. If we add up all our needs, we get our need expression profile. Partner profiles can be discordant, completely compatible, or anywhere in between.
5 areas where it matters if the partners' needs match
1. Survival
Partners are most compatible if they have a similarly expressed need for survival. If this need is great for one and small for the other, it is the first saver, worries a lot and makes plans for the future, and the other one is spendthrift, likes to take risks and live for the moment. It is therefore better if both partners have a similarly strong need to survive.
2. Love
A partner with a great need for love longs for quality time spent with his partner, loves intimacy and avoids conflicts. A partner with a lower need for love, however he likes time to himself, avoids intimacy and does not run away from conflicts. Therefore, partners are most compatible if they have (as in the case of survival) a similarly strong need for love.
3. Freedom
A partner with a great need for freedom is exceptional independent, does not follow rules, especially those who do not find them meaningful, and he likes time to himself. A partner with a lower need for freedom can be more dependent on others, wants to follow rules and doesn't like to be alone. Again, partners are most compatible if they have (as in the case of survival and love) a similarly strong need for freedom.
4. Entertainment
A partner with a high need for entertainment has a good one he has a sense of humor, thinks quickly and likes to spend his free time saying things he enjoys. A partner with a lower need for entertainment takes life more seriously. Ordinary he has no need for entertainment, creative activities and spending time on "useless" things. As with survival, love, and freedom, partners are best matched when they share a similarly intense need for fun.
5. Strength
Unless you and your partner have figured out how to be strong without competing with each other, you they best catch a partner with different power needs. Then one is the center of attention and the other is its support pillar; one wants to lead, the other to follow. One wants to win, and the other tries to help the first in this.
Some combinations of need expression are therefore better than others, but no combination can be predicted with certainty as to how it will perform in the long run.
