There are couples who have a crazy good sex life even after many years of relationship. They are rare, but they exist. What do these couples do differently compared to those who have been dry in bed for months or years?
Although every couple tries to be honest in their relationship, it is often impossible. Internal hardships, reservations, fear, shame... all this influences the fact that some partners decide to suffer in silence rather than an honest conversation, which will pay off in the long run, as it can save the relationship from a fatal collapse.
Talking about sexuality is still a touchy subject today, so it's not uncommon for couples to not even know what they want, let alone not know each other's desire. And then they wonder how to reveal their fantasies without scaring their partner or burdening themselves.
So what do partners do that do it differently?
This is what partners who have AWESOME sex lives do!
They talk and involve their partner in everything
An honest conversation, even if it can be damn difficult, will solve every problem in this world. Proven! If one of you is honest about what he likes, the other will surely open up and talk about his fantasies. If you are embarrassed to say what you want, you can try to come up with an answer in this way - say:
- "When we have sex, sometimes I dream about you doing XYZ to me."
- "Recently I had an erotic dream in which you were... XYZ."
They inspire each other
It is clear that they will have to have a LOT of courage to tell each other what they fantasize about. If you see that words will not work for you, you can try to discover desires with an interesting game. Everyone should make a wish list. Write them down on paper, cut up the pieces of paper and draw them. In this way, you will discover together which things might suit you. They will reduce the pressure on each other.
They are relaxed and learning
When it comes to sex, passion and humor are most important. It is entirely possible that you will not immediately succeed in what you envisioned. So what? Smile because the next time will be better. It takes time and practice before your every fantasy becomes a reality.
