Do you remember the moment when you meet someone you like and there is a sense of connection between you and the attraction of their smile, their body, their energy?
During the conversation, you feel like you have been with them forever. There is a nice tension and chemistry between you two. They match. You feel butterflies in your stomach near them and every touch feels like an electric shock.
It's certainly important to have that kind of attraction with your partner, but it's not the same as compatibility. Chemistry is the original taste, say of an orange, it comes and goes. Compatibility, however, is what keeps you going full and satisfied.
Sure, you can have both. The chemistry is natural, but you have to assess the compatibility in the continuation of the relationship. If you're looking for a long-term relationship, look for signs of your compatibility.
These are 7 signs that you and your partner are a good match.
Personal growth and development
It is important that they are at a similar level of personal development or at least share the desire to grow.
Common interests
That something you don't notice right away. For example, you are someone who likes camping, but you met the person in the winter. Summer is coming and you want to go camping, but you realize that person hates it. Can you imagine a long-term future without the two of you sharing your love of camping? Everyone has their own interests. In some cases, it is necessary to make compromises. You need to evaluate what you like and what you want to share with a long-term partner.
Finance
Money is a major cause of stress in relationships. In the early stages of dating, money is not an important topic. You might even be worried if she broached such a serious topic. But if you are looking for a long-term relationship, you should also talk about finances. It doesn't mean how much you earn or what your financial situation is, but your attitude towards money. This includes your spending habits, budget, desire to save, etc.
Sex and intimacy
Physical chemistry is not enough for a long-term relationship. Deep intimacy is required. What happens after sex, do you talk between the sheets? Cuddling? Do you each turn to your side?
Spirituality
Religious compatibility may not matter in the initial stages of a relationship, but it will undoubtedly influence the direction of the relationship. It is important to find out how religious your partner is.
Friends and family
Whether they approve of your relationship or not, they care about each other. They are ready to make an effort to make your relationship work and last.
Habits
After the honeymoon phase, they feel and sense their partner's habits. Quarrels are more common. You've put off your perfectionist glasses and are becoming more attuned to your day-to-day interactions. You are slowly noticing things that you didn't before. The more time you spend together, the more you get to know their habits, which will impress you or annoy you.
There are two options: either you will accept these habits and mistakes, or you will look for another person.
If it's a long-term love, you need a balanced combination of chemistry and compatibility. It's worth finding true love that lasts.
