Don't Ignore: 7 Signs Your Marriage Is In Crisis

Over time, everyday worries drive away the initial excitement, and sooner or later we also encounter the disappointments that marriage can bring. Some are smaller, others are larger and more difficult to solve. In marriage, the only thing that matters is that the partners solve problems on the fly. How do we know a marriage is in trouble? There are many signs that show that we need to start saving our marriage as soon as possible before it is too late.

Anxiety and stress

If you feel that anxiety, stress and fear arise when you are around your partner, this is a sign that something is wrong. All this can bring you common problems like headache, stomach ache, insomnia problem. If the relationship does not suit you, the body will react to it.

A feeling of loneliness

You feel lonely even when you are together with your partner. Every relationship brings this feeling, but if it happens too often, it's worth examining why this is so. This is a sign that you are not opening up in your marriage, or that your attempts to reconnect and make peace are failing. Feeling lonely is a sign of physical and emotional separation. You need to make an effort to make peace and reconnect or things will get worse.

Ignoring and arguing over little things

Conflict is a natural part of any relationship. Being honest with each other when you want to communicate a problem is a sign of maturity and a healthy relationship. Couples who don't know this will push problems under the rug or yell at each other. The problem is excessive arguing, but also ignoring the problems. A general avoidance of conflict may indicate that one or both partners do not feel safe to initiate problem solving. Avoiding short-term conflicts leads to long-term resentment and ultimately divorce. This is the main cause of the "roommate syndrome", where couples get along but do not feel an intimate connection.

Talk about money

Many times couples have different mindsets and priorities when it comes to finances. One wants to spend, the other wants to save, one wants to open a joint account, and the other wants to keep the finances separate. But the way a couple solves such problems says a lot about their relationship. Yes, money can be a touchy subject and money problems are quite common in marriage. In fact, money is almost always listed as the top reason a couple divorces. Therefore, it is good to talk about this with the help of a therapist.

Offensiveness

It's fun when both of them joke about each other. However, if you feel like your partner is constantly complaining or constantly rolling their eyes at your comments and insulting you, this can lower your self-esteem. Mocking and insulting someone can indicate a deeper disrespect or power imbalance. This can lead to resentment and contempt for the person you are married to. It's not about your oversensitivity, it's about pressure that you shouldn't feel.

You are a therapist, not a spouse

The advantage of an intimate relationship is that both partners stand by each other with various advice and have emotional support. However, your partner should not use you as a substitute for an occupational therapist, especially if they are dealing with mental health issues or a life crisis. Whether it's mood swings or stress, being your spouse's therapist on a daily basis can be exhausting. Of course, you will always support and help your partner, but some things should still be left to the experts.

You have a hard time making decisions

If you feel unable to make decisions, big or small, this could be a sign of relationship instability. Especially if your partner has put himself above you and brings you insecurity. A good example is when you decide where to go on vacation, you can't come to a compromise and you even stay at home. This could be a sign that they are unknowingly sabotaging your relationship because they don't understand what makes you happy.