Although it seems that a relationship is synonymous with the most beautiful emotions that lovers can feel, this is not always the case - if you often wonder if your partner's behavior is harmful, this is a sign that something is clearly not right.
Even if the thought is that you the relationship hurts, terrifying, is unfortunately, it can be true. And we are not talking about physical violence, but emotional manipulation, which is just as destructive, experts say.
Professionally, it's called emotional manipulation gaslighting – coin comes from Hamilton's Gas Light Games from the year 1938, in which he tries husband to persuade wife, that she is crazy to get his hands on her wealth. Gas Light like that represents a form of mental deception, which eventually causes that the person begins to doubt his own perception of the world.
How do you identify gaslighting?
Experts say they already know from their work that they will violent people and manipulators used every tactic, which is available to them in order to exercised power and control above victims. Gaslighting is a tactic forced and controlled behavior, which seeks to make the victim doubt himself and his own sanity and events, which has devastating consequences for him.
Gaslighting is a form domestic abuse, which is difficult for the victim to recognize and avoid. Bullies tend to use techniques such as persuading the victim to lose his memory to a specific incident, neglect hers emotions and thinks blaming, to lie or explain things that are not true.
This form of abuse can be subtle, so you have to watch closely for signs, in order to recognize it, experts say: confusion, constantly scolding the partner, problems at accepting simple solutions, withholding information for fear of having to talk about a partner.
Can gaslighting happen in the workplace?
Gaslighting allegedly occurs not only in partnerships, but also in work environment. Many people think that this form of manipulation occurs in terms of the dynamics of relationships between a superior and a subordinate, but it is most evident in the competitiveness between employees, when someone wants to get ahead and pushes the other person aside, yes her work and zeal are not noticed. And so, of course, he achieves his goal.
