Relationships are complicated, and so are the people who enter into them. We all long for belonging, looking for long-term relationships, stable relationships, friendships that create a sense of belonging. We look for feelings that move us and make us feel alive. We hope to find what we are looking for.
Accept reality. It is hard to see and know what is true. Sometimes you are so torn and divided that you cannot integrate and see what is real and what is not.
You can't predict anything. Did you know a few years ago that you were going to meet someone special? You didn't and since then you've grown and know more now than you did then. Everything happens for a purpose, including giving you the necessary lessons for your growth. There are relationships that you can be in for years and through which you grow. Another person and your relationship grows and develops together with you.
Sometimes love is nice and stable. But there are also relationships in which you are left without love, in the end you remain indifferent and wonder how you could have been so stupid and blind. Sometimes so many bad things happen that kill the value of love and sometimes love is not enough to keep the relationship going because you would lose yourself, your mental and physical health in it.
Sometimes love saves you, and sometimes you have to save yourself from love. Sometimes you have to be wounded to connect with your feelings, to feel the loss. And sometimes you don't know what you're doing.
Stick to what is comfortable and acceptable to you. Sometimes certain things happen and you forget that this relationship never had a chance. That you were just projecting your desires and expectations onto this person, and that this person was basically not real at all.
You feel liberated and at the same time lost and defeated. Through pain, you become more connected to yourself. Although you try to block the pain, you realize that it is not possible.
You go through different relationships in life. Sometimes you get involved in toxic relationships, toxic friendships. Sometimes you get lucky and find yourself on the side of love.
Sometimes you have to choose between the possibility of continuing development and remaining in a relationship in which development is stopped. Sometimes you choose a worse relationship because you are afraid of being alone. If you feel like you're always putting your energy into someone but never getting support from them, then you're definitely facing a loss - either you're going to lose yourself or you're going to lose this relationship.
It's hard to let go of what you feel if the other person does not recognize and see it. And it may never be—not with you. In such relationships, the relationship has run out of growth, maybe there is still love, but it is stagnant. You wonder with fear if your love is enough and with pain you realize that it is not.
Stay vulnerable. Let yourself feel and live the experience. Be responsible for yourself and your feelings, growth and development. Stay ready to be who you are - in the moment when you feel and experience disappointment, when you are exposed to situations in which you have no control over the outcome.
