"The one who never lies believes the most and the one who never cheats trusts the most." - Morales Baltasar
Are you thinking about cheating on her? Have you already made up your mind and are just looking for some acceptable reason to do it? The reason it won't be your fault, it will be hers.
Why are you even with her if you want someone else so badly? Why don't you end your relationship before going with another woman? Why do you have to betray her?
Cheating on her will break her heart in two. You will destroy everything she thinks she knows about life and love and leave her in pain. Her heart will shatter into a thousand pieces. You won't just hurt her, you'll break her. You will leave her with a deep and horrible wound. It will take years of searching to slowly heal.
Do you really want to do this? Is having sex with someone else really so important that you're doing it to someone you're supposed to love?
You know, you won't just break the trust he has in you. You will break her trust with anyone who will ever love her again. Because if someone she loves as much as you love her can hurt her so badly, who's to say the other person won't, too? How could he ever trust anyone again?
She won't sleep. She won't eat. Her eyes will be blank. She won't be able to smile without breaking down. She will be in pain for months. She will lie awake every night. She will look at the empty space next to her and your betrayal will play out in her mind. She will know you are with her. She will fall asleep in tears.
Everything you shared will be infected with memories of what you meant to her, what you still mean to her, and how she wasn't enough for you.
But she still won't hate you for what you did to her. Instead, she will blame it on herself. She will endlessly and obsessively wonder why she wasn't enough for you. What did she do wrong. With every woman she meets, she will wonder if it is her or if she could have done something different to save your relationship.
She will wonder why you don't love her like she loves you. She will wonder if it would have been different if she had paid more attention to you, if she had loved you even more. She will cry silently in moments when she is left alone with her thoughts and wishes that you were still the person she thought you were all along.
Everything you ever said to her will become null and void. All the promises, all the times you whispered to her that she was beautiful, amazing and wonderful - all those memories will crumble to dust. She won't believe them anymore because you obviously don't mean it. If I did, I wouldn't cheat on her.
It will take years for her to believe that someone is telling the truth when they tell her that she is beautiful, that she is exciting, that he loves her. Because not only will you destroy the relationship you have with her, you will destroy her self-worth. You will destroy her ability to love, her ability to trust, her ability to open up to another person.
When you love someone, you become vulnerable to them. You bring him too close, so close that you put your heart in the palm of his hand. You trust him not to hurt you. You give him the power to destroy you, to rip your heart out, and you just have to trust him that he loves you and won't do anything to hurt you.
When the person you allow yourself to be vulnerable with betrays you, it's hard to imagine that you could ever be that vulnerable again. And after the betrayal, you close in on yourself. You put more walls, doors and locks around yourself just to prevent others from finding their way to your heart.
This is the legacy you will leave her. This is what will happen to her.
So why are you even planning to cheat on her? What do you have if you're going to betray the person you're supposed to love? If you don't love her anymore, or if you never did, why would you cheat? Go away. Why cause her pain when she realizes you're not who she thought you were?
Do the right thing and face the reality of the breakup if she doesn't mean anything to you anymore, if you don't love her anymore. If you think you can stay with her and have fun with other women, ask yourself how you would feel if you knew she was cheating on you. Put yourself in her place.
You realize that you won't be able to lie forever and keep those cheating secrets, no matter how unlikely you think she'll catch you doing it?
When a few weeks pass and you see in her eyes how much she loves you, how much you mean to her, how proud she is of you, how she misses you when you're so busy and away from home... the guilt will bite into your mind. You will dream that she overlooked your deception. You'll wake up all sweaty and wish you could wipe it all away. Do you really want this?
If you're lucky enough to have an amazing woman by your side who loves you with all her heart and would do anything for you, why throw it all away? Do you even understand how lucky you really are?
If you really don't love her, leave her. She deserves much more than you can give her. And if you really think you'd cheat on her, you don't really love her—at least not the way she loves you.
