The hardest, yet most important thing you will have to do in your life is to stop giving love to those who are not ready to love.
This is not an easy act as it is human nature to want to win the affection and love of everyone we come in contact with. However, it should be understood that such an effort can take a lot of time, energy and sanity. How to let people go they are not ready to love?
Stop wasting your time and energy with people who don't want to change. Stop hanging out with people who don't care about your presence. Stop prioritizing those who treat you as an option rather than a priority.
Most importantly, stop loving those who are not ready to love you.
Realize that when you start living your life fully, with joy, interest and dedication, the right people will be by your side.
This doesn't mean you have to change who you are. It just means that you should stop loving people who are not ready to love you.
If the people you spend the most time with are indifferent to you, despise you, or simply ignore you, you are doing yourself no favors by continuing to offer them your energy and life.
You matter, no one else! Photo: Brooke Cagle/UnsplashYou are not right for everyone and everyone is not right for you. This is what makes those rare people with whom you develop a genuine friendship, love or relationship special.
The longer you try to force someone to love you even though they are not capable of it, the longer you are giving up on the true love that is waiting for you. There are billions of people on this planet and among them you will find those who will accept you as you are.
They might forget you completely. Maybe the relationship will end. Perhaps love will dissipate. But that doesn't mean you've ruined the relationship. It just means that the only thing that kept this relationship going was the energy you put into it.
It's not love, it's just attachment.
The most valuable thing in your life is your energy. It's not about the limitation of your time, it's about the limitation of your energy. What you dedicate your daily life to will determine what you will create in life. Once you understand this, you will begin to understand why you are so unhappy when you spend time with people who are not right for you, or work in jobs, places, or cities that are not right for you.
Make it yours life safe harbor, which is only open to people who know how to care, listen and connect.
Be with those who make you happy. Photo: Cristian Castillo/UnsplashIt's not your job to lose yourself in a role where you give your life to people, bit by bit, moment by moment, just because you're worried about not being liked. Your job is to realize that you are the master of your own destiny and that you deserve the love you believe you deserve.
Choose to deserve genuine friendships, true commitment, and perfect love with people who are healthy and successful. Then wait, and watch everything begin to change.
