A woman can be aroused in two ways. One is tangible, literally, and the other is mental. Let's take a closer look.
A woman can climax in two ways - the "good old" way by touching her erogenous zones or by "lustful" thoughts, he says Vivienne Cass, author of The Elusive Orgasm: A Woman's Guide to Why She Can't and How Can Orgasm.
“Our nerves are directly connected to the brain and genitals, so the thoughts you create in the brain affect arousal. It is important to know that some thoughts will excite you, while others will have the exact opposite effect. For an easier climax, imagine you have a switch in your brain that you can turn on or off,” says Cassova. If you want to turn it on, fantasize! It is important to learn what you are passionate about.
"Close your eyes. Think of someone you find sexy. Remember a moment that inspired you and that you enjoyed. Or remember scenes from a movie or book that you find sexy,” says Cassova. She explains that thinking this way will send positive, arousing signals to the clitoris.
But what will "cool you down" is thinking about sexuality as something bad. You will also be "cooled" by the feeling of guilt because you are enjoying yourself, as well as the excessive thinking that you cannot experience climax. Also, you should not focus too much on satisfying your partner and neglect your own needs.
"If you feel attractive to your partner, it will create excitement. Knowing that he wants you will help you focus on your sexual needs. And the more excited you are, the more you will focus on those aspects of your partner that are most attractive to you. Psychological and physiological changes, such as wetness and arousal, come together." adds Cassova.
Among the main reasons why it is so difficult for some women to experience an orgasm is excessive concern for other things, insufficient knowledge of their body and how to arouse themselves, as well as lack of time for "enthusiasm", says the author.
“There are more ways to climax than there are cake recipes. It all depends on your mood, the atmosphere, the ability of your partner, what day it is in the cycle and many other factors that affect how we think. And we know that "lust" is connected precisely with thoughts," Cassova concludes.
