Science has shown that there is a cure for even the biggest "fence jumpers"!
Cheating destroys partnership, destroys marriages. It brings a feeling of betrayal, a loss of trust, which can lead to major emotional problems that affect all areas of life.
Why do we cheat? There is no simple answer to this. Sometimes people are immature, sometimes cheating is a result of past painful relationships, sometimes it's revenge, and sometimes it's just part of the personality of people who don't care about the consequences.
There are warnings that can influence whether a person cheats or stops at the moment of temptation. A factor that has been shown through research to be decisive in preventing cheating is commitment or dedication to the relationship. Research was conducted in 2016, and the authors of the research, among other things, also investigated the influence of commitment in a relationship on the tendency to have extramarital adventures. It turns out that commitment is a factor that it stops even those people who are extremely prone to behavior patterns that harm the relationship.
What does commitment to a relationship really mean? A committed relationship (or relationship) is one that is based on mutual trust, sincerity, openness and love. Devotion or commitment means that a person has a desire to keep the relationship, and deception has nothing to look for here.
Scientifically proven facts about cheating that every couple should know
1. IF YOU ARE FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT ON YOUR PARTNER, YOU ARE MORE LIKELY TO CHEAT ON THEM.
A study from 2015, it covered 2,800 people between the ages of 18 and 32. They found that those who are completely financially dependent on their partner are more likely to cheat. Especially if they are men: 15 percent of men who were completely financially dependent on their wives cheated on you, while in the reverse situation only 5 percent of women did.
2. MEN AND WOMEN RESPOND DIFFERENTLY TO FLIRTATION WITH OTHER PEOPLE.
A study from 2008 in Interpersonal Relations and Group Processes found that men who flirted outside of a relationship were less tolerant of flirting from their female partners. The opposite is true for women: after flirting themselves, it was easier for their partner to look through their fingers while doing the same.
3. OUR FEELINGS DEPEND ON THE SEX OF THE PERSON WITH WHOM THE PARTNER CHEATED ON US.
At Personal Relationship they passed research, in which people read hypothetical scenarios in which their partners cheated on them. The gender of the person with whom the partners cheated changed a lot. Men were angry and wanted to end the relationship if a woman got involved with a man, but if she got involved with a woman, the thought of it turned them on. Women reacted differently: if their partner got involved with a person of the same sex, they had an even greater desire to end the relationship.
4. WE THINK EVERYONE IS CHEATING...ONLY OUR PARTNER DOESN'T.
At Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found in 2015 that the average person has a 42 percent chance of cheating. At the same time, the respondents believed that there was only a 5% chance that their partner had cheated on them in the past, and an 8% chance that they would in the future. In fact, only 9 percent of respondents admitted to having been unfaithful before.
5. HETEROSEXUAL MEN ARE MORE CONCERNED ABOUT PHYSICAL INFAILITY, HETEROSEXUAL WOMEN ARE MORE CONCERNED ABOUT EMOTIONAL.
Research, published in Evolutionary Psychology, found that men would be very angry if a woman had sex with a man she was not in love with. Women would react differently here: they would be much more saddened if a man fell in love with another woman with whom sexual intercourse did not even occur.
6. MEN ARE MORE LIKELY TO CHEAT BEFORE THEIR MILESTONE BIRTHDAY.
It is in 2014 research found that men are more likely to jump the fence as their anniversary approaches. The same thing happens to women, except that the probability is lower.
7. YOUR GENES CAN ALSO INFLUENCE INFAITHFULNESS.
A study, conducted at the University of Queensland, found that people may also be biologically inclined to cheat. Infidelity was much more common in people who had a certain type of oxytocin and vasopressin receptors. Vasopressin is a hormone associated with social behavior, including trust, empathy, and bonding during sex.
8. A RELATIONSHIP CAN RECOVER EVEN AFTER INfidelity.
M. Gary Neuman, author of the video program Creating Your Best Marriage, lists 3 steps that can help heal a relationship:
1. The one who cheated must repent and show a desire to change.
2. The deceived person must convince himself that he will not be deceived again.
3. The cheated person should not ask what exactly is happening between the partner and the person with whom he cheated.
9. THE POSSIBILITY OF A WOMAN CHEATING IS GREATER TODAY.
Although men are still thought to be the ones who cheat more often, New York Magazine revealed that women are almost as likely to cheat (or already are). V studies from 2011, 23 percent of men and 19 percent of women in heterosexual relationships admitted to cheating on their partner.
10. YOUNGER PEOPLE CHEAT LESS.
After analysis, conducted by Nicholas Wolfinger of the Institute for Family Studies, found that people over the age of 55 were the most naughty. Wolfinger estimates that this is the result of the sexual revolution of the 1950s and 1960s.
11. EMOTIONAL AFFAIRS ARE INCREASINGLY COMMON.
Researchers at American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy have found that emotional affairs are more and more common. As many as 45 percent of men and 35 percent of women admitted that they had already had an emotional affair. Only 20 percent of people admitted that they would rather just have sex.
12. MORALITY SHOULD BE THE MAIN REASON WHY MARRIED PEOPLE DON'T CHEATE.
A study from this year notes that it is morality that protects married people from infidelity. Other reasons are: children, fear of loneliness, other people. Morality is strongest among believers, and those less pious people cite children as the main reason.
13. THOSE WHO HAVE ALREADY BEEN UNFAITHFUL ARE MORE LIKELY TO CHEAT.
V studies, published in the Archives of Sexual Behaviour, involved 500 adults in heterosexual relationships. Those who have cheated once are three times more likely to cheat again in the next relationship. Those who had been deceived in the past remained suspicious.
