We live in a monogamous society where movies, novels and music bombard us with ideas about that fairytale love where partners live happily ever after. Therefore, it is completely normal to wonder if there is something wrong with you if you fell in love with two men at the same time. First of all, let's reassure you: these feelings are completely normal, but you have to decide how you will react to them. We have prepared a plan for you, what to do if you fall in love with two men.
If you are wondering if you are because of the feeling of love for two men have done something wrong, let us assure you that these kinds of emotions abound more frequent as you think. People don't talk about them because shame and negative self-images, which are completely unnecessary: to your feelings, namely you have no influence. However, you should nevertheless to decide, how will you deal with this kind of infatuation faced: you don't want to hurt any of the chosen ones.
This kind of infatuation is often accompanied by feelings of shame Photo: Karolina Grabowska / PexelsHow to react to emotions if you are single?
How you react to such infatuation is of course up to you situations. It's much simpler if you just deal with both men you are dating and you have no agreement with any of them exclusive relationship.
Then we suggest that both men get to know each other better and in this way find out which one you are more with compatible. Don't just consider it physical attractiveness (although for most it is also very important), but focus mainly on yours goals, ambitions, views of the world and life, plays about of the future... It is also important to try to clear things up with yourself, for what a crush it goes: maybe you only have feelings for one of the men passion, while you simply run out of topics for deep conversations. In such a case, the relationship between you most likely has no future. The same applies if you notice that you are looking at a certain chosen one more friendly way: this is also not the best travel card for a relationship.
You also need to look at it from a realistic angle the intentions of both men: they both want with you a serious relationship or who just wants to getting without obligation? If it's the latter, then it's a choice easy.
Do you dream of someone else next to your chosen one? Photo: Anastasia ShuarevaHow to react to emotions if you are in a relationship?
If you are with any of the men in monogamous relationship, the matter is a little more complicated, but by no means unsolvable. First of all, you need to realize that a brief crush on another person is something completely normal and doesn't always mean you should end the relationship or that the other man is for real "the right one". Instead, such feelings may indicate that in their relationship you miss something you noticed on another man. That's easy passion, ability long conversations, the feeling that someone really listens… It is important that here rate it, or could be in a relationship with a partner worked, revived chemistry between you and such a thing you miss found again in your relationship.
Falling in love with another man can also mean that you and your partner have found yourself at the split and that you no longer see the future of your relationship. At that time, it is important to think carefully about whether it would be yours solve problems or your story is over. You should also be aware that it is not necessary to the solution- although it may seem so at first glance - it hides in to another person: sometimes the best way is to be after the end of the relationship single for a while and thus make sure that you are partners for real got over it.
There is, of course, a third option, and this is it polygamous relationship. Before entering into such a relationship, it is of course imperative that think carefully, about such a way of partnership you inquire and make sure that the deal answered both you and your partner. That's when it's especially needed honesty, which must lead to open and respectful conversations.
