We are taught from a young age that women need men to be happy and to start a family (which, of course, is not true). Another strange and absurd belief is that a woman needs a man to make her life easier; as if she wasn't capable of living an uncomplicated life herself!
Such societal beliefs force women to believe that they are capable of less than they are truly capable of doing and achieving. They forget that they don't need anyone to be happy and successful except to believe in themselves. They are capable and can achieve anything they set their mind to!
You probably know single moms who are doing great without a man by their side, or single women who have their own businesses. It is important for women to understand that we do not need a man, but if we want one, we can have one!
When we were born, we were given three simple birthrights: independence, strength and life. So we have the ability to be independent and successful without the help of a man. We have the strength of all the women who came before us imprinted deep within us, and most importantly, we have the ability to create and birth a new life.
It is also important that we are capable of living a happy life without a man, but that doesn't mean we have to. Choice is what makes our lives so interesting and beautiful. We could decide that we are the ultimate independent business woman, but we could still have a lover to share all the special moments with. The trick is not to let it change us or our relationship. Women in relationships (too) often forget our independence, because we like it when someone does things for us.
Partnerships should help us, yes grow as a person, enrich us and breathe life into those parts of our being that we didn't even know existed. If we enter a relationship without knowing how to be independent, we can quickly become codependent. And society has led us to believe that this is completely normal.
We women don't need a prince on a white horse who claims to solve all our problems, because we are perfectly capable of solving them ourselves, and we especially don't need a man who will create problems.
Let's find a love that motivates us to be our own person, a man that inspires and encourages us in all aspects of life. A lover who is not just a partner, but someone who is our equal, someone who can be our best friend.
