Certain connections go live after a retry. And there is nothing wrong with the two of you trying again, but you should be aware of the many pitfalls that can harm you if you fall into them. And what will hurt you the most are the lies that all couples blind themselves to when they return to their ex-partner.
If you want to get back with your ex, make sure you do for the right reasons. Breakups can be a difficult thing for a person they leave deep wounds – then it's tempting, yes you idealize your partner and you dream that it will maybe it went somewhere else.
Sometimes it really works, but before that, make sure you know that there are many lies, which you blind yourself with when you go back to your ex. Everyone does!
6 lies that blind you:
"Everything will be different this time."
People change, and their relationships with other people change with it - but expecting that this time everything will be completely different between you two is unlikely. Be prepared that certain problems may be similar. There will also be new ones that are mainly related to the time when you were both single!
"No one knows me better."
This may not even be a lie - if you've been in a relationship for a long time, your ex probably knows you well, but that doesn't mean no one will ever get close to you again. People come and go in life!
"Everyone else is an idiot."
When people don't have something, they usually paint that object in their head a bit more beautiful than it really is - this also applies to exes. After a breakup, many people find it difficult to open up to other people. They often think of all people as idiots and are sure that they will never meet anyone who is really interested in them again. But that's not true!
"We're friends and we'll see how things go."
Relationships are complicated, and although people wish at all costs to be able to separate them into black and white, into love and friendship, into affection and hatred, this is of course impossible - that's why keep in mind, but where does your desire to by remaining friends. Where does this take you?
"In every relationship, a little patience is necessary."
Relationships are not what movies and fairy tales show us - they often require giving up, compromises and an investment of energy, but there is a clear limit to what point it makes sense to suffer.
"Maybe I'm exaggerating."
When people start missing someone, they often find themselves questioning their decision. Was it really bad? Was I really that unlucky? When you are struck by such doubts, take a step back - maybe this way you will find out why you broke up.
