In the world of intimacy, honest and open conversation is key to deepening your relationship with your partner. The sexy questions you ask not only spice up your love life, but also help you understand your partner's wants and needs. These are questions for your partner, with which you will learn something new about him!
If you don't know how to talk openly, these questions will serve as inspiration. These are questions for a partner! Exciting questions can they heat the atmosphere, while others are designed to detect any problems that might be affecting how you currently enjoy sex.
The answers to these questions can expand your understanding of each other and help shape more an intimate, open and connected relationship. Don't be afraid to express your wishes and expectations, because it is open conversation the key to a successful and fulfilling relationship.
Questions for your partner to discover something new
Select the questions according to the level of your relations and level of intimacy – and don't be afraid to ask!
#1 What was your first sexual experience?
There is a school of thought that says how and with whom you lost your virginity forever affects your sex life. If it's a positive experience, you're more likely to view sex as something that's healthy and pleasurable. The opposite happens if it was bad and you felt hurt or taken advantage of. If your partner has trust issues and you don't know why, this might offer an answer.
You are embarrassed, no, the conversation should be private. Photo: Leah Kelley / Pexels#2 How did your parents view sexuality?
Did your partner grow up with strict, religious parents who never talked about sex or who thought sex was wrong or "bad"? Negative messages about sex can be withheld and hinder future enjoyment.
#3 How important is sexuality to you?
Sexual desire increases at the beginning of a relationship. This question is supposed to reveal what the partner's normal libido is, that is, how often he wants to have sex when the relationship is stabilized.
#4 How often do you want an intimate relationship?
Don't assume that someone who says sex is very important to him wants it every day. Some prefer occasional sex. Others want regular sex and are disappointed if it doesn't happen at least several times a week.
Enjoy each other. Photo: The lazy artist gallery / Pexels#5 What is your view on pornography?
Nothing divides people more than attitudes towards pornography. Some consider it degrading to women, others see it as a harmless masturbation aid. Find out what your partner thinks about it.
#6 When is your favorite time to have sex?
Knowing whether your partner is a morning, afternoon, or night person is key to an easy sex life. Many couples who feel that their sex drives are hopelessly incompatible actually find that this is not due to different levels of desire. But, they just started having sex at the wrong time.
#7 What is your favorite part of sex?
Does your partner like to hold back on foreplay or does he want to climax as soon as possible? How does he feel about kissing? Hand stimulation? A discussion that leads nicely to the next question…
Surrender to passion. Photo: Tim Samuel / Pexels#8 What is the most reliable way to achieve orgasm?
Most people feel much more comfortable saying, "The reason I like oral sex" than, "I can't have an orgasm during sex." This is how couples learn their magic formula to prevent orgasm gaps.
#9 What turns you on, gets you ready for sex?
Are you watching or reading something erotic - after a long, intimate conversation with your partner? When you feel attractive and physically awake after a workout? What's your cue that leads to sex?
#10 How would you like me to start?
If you only ask one question at a time, use the above questions instead.
