Do you love yourself? Are you afraid that someone will hurt you if you open your heart and soul to them? Are you looking for the perfect person or jumping from relationship to relationship? How do you think you will find love? In this way - no.
People often say that you'll find love when you least expect it, because when you don't worry about it, you free your mind. With this, you release your thoughts, your energy to the universe. Love will always find a way.
And one day it will come unexpectedly. She will enter your life like a breath of fresh air. And she won't leave. But first you have to overcome the obstacles within yourself!
1. Find self-love
Ask yourself, are you in love with yourself? This is the most important question to ask yourself. Maybe you haven't spent enough time with yourself. Maybe you keep looking for love elsewhere and forget to look for it within yourself. It's hard to find love if you've never found love for yourself.
You don't know who you are, what you want and how much you're worth until you look at yourself, the person in the mirror. When you love yourself, you know what you deserve, and you don't want to settle for less. Learn to love all parts – yourself, even your flaws. Give yourself love before you look for it elsewhere. That way you will receive only that true love.
2. Don't be afraid of love
You cannot get what you fear. Many fear what they most desire. How then can you attract what is good for you? How can you possibly get what is best for you? You can't.
express the pain and move on! Photo: Andrea Piacquadio / PexelsMaybe you've been hurt before and you're afraid to be vulnerable because you don't want to get hurt again. Maybe you don't want to risk losing it all again. Have you really lost everything when you could have gained so much more? You have lost what is not for you. You must learn to let go of fear. True love won't leave.
3. You don't give anyone a chance
How will you find love if you don't give anyone a chance? You wont. You may be afraid that you will choose someone who is not for you. Someone who will hurt you. You have to give up control. You can't see the future. But you can see the warnings and when they do, leave. You have to give people a chance otherwise you won't know if they are the right person for you or not.
4. You persist in a bad relationship
Why are you with this person if you know they are not right for you? You can't change anyone to be what you want them to be. You shouldn't love someone's potential. The person you are with should encourage you to grow.
Some things will change, but it has to be natural. There is someone out there for you. You will not find love if you try to force someone to show it to you. This is not love. The right person will give it to you constantly.
5. You are too focused on finding a partner
If you are not living your life, then you are not working on personal growth. When you go around in circles looking for someone to fill the void inside you, you will not find love.
6. You don't set boundaries
It is important to communicate your boundaries to the other person and enforce them. While forgiveness is important in any relationship, someone who loves you will respect your boundaries and not cross them. You cannot expect to find love if you are constantly forgiving someone who disrespects you and who repeatedly crosses your boundaries.
7. You are looking for the perfect person
Nobody is perfect. You must not forget that we are all only human. Your partner is human. Don't build a robot to fit all your needs. You will find someone who is perfect for you, but they will not be such a perfect being. We all have flaws.
Nobody is perfect. But maybe this person is imperfectly perfect for you. photo: Andrea Piacquadio / Pexels8. You don't open your heart
To find love, you have to be vulnerable. Open your heart and vulnerability. That it hurts to be hurt, but if you will never open your heart to another person again, how will the right person find a way to your heart..
9. You value only the appearance and the material side of a person
Love is intangible. If you are only focused on what lies on the surface, you will not find love. Are you even looking for love if all you care about is a person's financial situation? If you only choose people based on their appearance and material wealth, you do not love their soul. You are not looking for love because love always lives in the soul.
10. You want love too much
Sometimes you want love so badly that you go into a relationship, just to go, you don't care who the person is next to you. It's just that you're not alone. You must not do this under any circumstances. When you jump into situations too quickly, you are trying to fill a void. It will never give you what you need in love. You will become empty because such a relationship does not fill you up. True love will help you grow.
11. Fear rejection
Go after what you want. If someone rejects you, they are not the right person for you. There is nothing wrong with you, nor with them. The right person will come at the right time, believe me. Let go and trust in love.
