Are there moments of distance and dissatisfaction in the partnership? Do you wonder why they sometimes seem more distant and unreachable? Have you ever thought that certain things you do could be affecting your relationship?
V partnership relations we can face various challenges that affect the quality and sustainability of the relationship. While most people want to healthy and loving relationship, it sometimes happens that the partners start move away from each other. This can happen due to a variety of factors, including dissatisfaction, inability to communicate, inappropriate behavior or other behavioral patterns.
With what do you unconsciously push your partner away from you?
1. You drain his energy when he needs space
In partner relationships, it is important to be able to recognize the need for space and independence. Sometimes a partner may find themselves in situations where they need time to themselves to calm down, relax or focus on their own needs.
If we don't respect it and leave it alone in such moments, it can lead to a feeling of suffocation and loss of energy. Draining your partner's energy through constant demands for attention, conversation, or shared activities can cause stress and tension in the relationship and contribute to the distancing of the partners.
What can be done to make it better?
- Respect your partner's need for space and independence.
- If your partner withdraws or needs time to themselves, allow them to do so without feeling rejected or resentful.
- Encourage open dialogue about needs for space and independence in the relationship.
- Discuss how you can maintain a balance between shared time and individual time.
- Develop your interests and hobbies and take time for yourself.
- If you have a fulfilling and rich life yourself, you are less likely to drain your partner's energy.
2. You treat your partner like you are his mother
In partner relationships, we can sometimes find ourselves in a role that is more similar to the parental role than the role of a partner. This can happen when we take control of our partner's life, criticize them, or treat them like a child instead of an equal partner.
Such behavior can cause feelings of resentment, inferiority or helplessness in the partner and lead to feelings of distance and dissatisfaction in the relationship.
What can be done to make it better?
- Respect your partner's autonomy and decisions.
- Don't try to control or direct his life, but let him make his own decisions and responsibilities.
- Communicate respectfully and constructively.
- Instead of criticizing or blaming your partner, focus on expressing your own needs, wants, and expectations in a way that encourages open and honest communication.
- Develop an equal partnership. Participate in joint decisions, consult and support each other in achieving common goals and desires.
3. You don't know how to be alone
The lack of independence and the inability to spend time alone can affect the quality of the relationship and contribute to the alienation of partners. If we feel independent or dependent on our partner for our happiness and fulfillment in a relationship, this can lead to feelings of pressure, limitation or dependency in the relationship.
In addition, a lack of independence can lead to feelings of suffocation and loss of identity in the relationship, and contribute to feelings of distance and dissatisfaction between partners.
What can be done to make it better?
- Develop your individuality and independence.
- Spend time with yourself, pursue your hobbies and interests, and set goals and ambitions that are independent of your partner.
- Create a balance between shared time and individual time.
- It is important that the partners have enough space and time to develop their own identity and happiness without feeling threatened or neglected in the relationship.
- Communicate your needs and expectations for independence and space in the relationship.
- Encourage open dialogue about how you can maintain individuality and autonomy in your partnership and take time for yourself when you need it.
With respect, understanding and commitment, you can overcome the obstacles and challenges that appear along the way and build a solid and lasting partnership based on love, trust and respect.
