Ever heard of obsessive love?
What is this dangerous passion that leaves you broken, wounded, crushed in pain and depressed?
For a healthy relationship, it is important that you and your partner complement each other, but not in such a way that you would be completely destroyed if you broke up. It shouldn't leave you feeling like you can't live without it.
We talk about Anna Karenina syndrome when they perform obsessive passion and emotional attachment, which in some cases can make your life impossible. Why? Because you no longer see your boundaries, there is only one person for you, you are gone.
Such obsessive relationships are harmful and lead to Anna Karenina syndrome. A case of passionate obsessive love. Whoever felt this obsession once, continues he longs for that feeling, despite the pain they felt at the time. An obsession gets you addicted like a drug. Why? Intense emotions combined with physical attraction, emotional attachment and mutual commitment make you feel alive, full of life. But when he joins it obsession, it is no longer infatuation or simple love.
Anna Karenina syndrome is essentially an obsessive-compulsive disorder. It is characterized by a lack of personal control. It involves absolute dependence in which people do not see their limits. They lose themselves to fit their loved one, giving up everything that defines them and gives them control just to be with that person. Such an attitude fills their thoughts to such an extent that they can no longer live normally. They leave friends, partners, family. Their universe revolves only around this person and their blind love for them.
But this is not happiness, it is suffering. They feel anxiety due to mistrust, fear of deception, loss of a loved one. They lose self-confidence, integrity, emotional balance. With such obsessive behavior, they lose themselves, their lives.
The following sentences describe the syndrome "Without you there is no me", "My life without you has no meaning" and the like. They become empty. They are only filled by another person. They are blindly obsessed, and when the relationship ends, their road to recovery is long.
How to control this passionate obsessive love?
1. Never look for a partner with the desire to "fill the void" or to be your "other half". Life is not about finding a soul mate. First of all, you need to grow internally and become a balanced and mature person who is able to be happy with yourself. Don't look to others to fill your emptiness or ease your fears. Try to find a partnership that will be mutually beneficial.
2. Be careful not to fall into a clinging relationship that does not allow you any freedom. To love is to gain and grow, not to lose or limit yourself. Obsession is never good because it can put limitations on your life. The moment you make someone else your top priority, you will start losing things. You will give up your hobbies, friends and even your values.
3. Never love blindly. Love with open eyes and an open heart. Be aware of love. What are you willing to do for your partner and he for you? Does he respect your needs, listen to you, and consider your thoughts? Does it allow you to grow as a person and help your relationship develop?
True love is not obsession. It is a happiness that lasts from day to day. There are ups and downs as both partners try to solve problems together. They talk to each other, respect each other, are not blindly in love or jealous, trust each other and do not blackmail each other.
Love with intensity, love with passion, but never, ever love blindly. Love in such a way that you and your partner are in balance. Love does not destroy, love is love!
