Why doesn't anyone behave as they should? When others let you down, it's usually not about them, it's about you—more specifically, your expectations. You judge and accept their behavior by coming from within yourself. You have your expectations and priorities, they have theirs - but often different.
Usually in relationships nothing goes the way you expect. Partnerships are complicated, partners don't behave logically (that is, the way you think makes sense), friends let you down (even though you think they should be there for you).
You are often angry, confused and frustrated. Why is it so hard to maintain close relationships?
To help you cope with this, you need to be aware of your expectations and reduce them to a reasonable level.
You are not always right
You claim that something is not true and that only you are right, because that is how you think and feel. If others do not accept your truths, beliefs, and the way you justify them, you are likely to think that they are stubborn and impossible to talk to.
If someone makes you angry because they disagree with you, look inside yourself. Why do you expect someone to see things the same way you do? What is obvious to you is absurd to some - and vice versa.
Instead of trying to convince others in every way, try to develop understanding and tolerance.
Photo: Wesner Rodrigues / PexelsThey won't always respect you
By doing so, those who disrespect you offer you a mirror in which you can see the level of your own self-esteem. You cannot demand and expect others to respect you. You may think that you respect them and therefore owe it to you to return it, but it just doesn't work.
Overcome the limitations of vanity and understand self-respect as a personal, psychological category that relates primarily to self-confidence and self-love.
Not everyone will like you
Your value is not in whether someone likes you or not. Rather, develop acceptance and self-esteem. This will allow you to cultivate quality relationships. Accept other people's differences. This is especially important in business relationships and communication.
Don't expect others to change
You cannot influence others to change and become what you want. Even if you see potential in them and try to encourage them, they will resist it. Return to understanding and acceptance.
Lower your expectations. Photo: Theo Rql / UnsplashAccept that you cannot have good relationships with all people, especially those who will never change their attitudes and behavior. And the best decision is to let such people out of your life.
Don't expect others to read your mind
No one can read your mind. No one knows what you're thinking and how you'll react if you haven't made it clear to her. Everyone has their own problems, expectations and aspirations. Nothing is taken for granted, you have to discuss and agree on everything. Sometimes this means giving in, arguing or making demands, but above all, lots of good communication.
