Is he the right man for you? A man you like exactly the way he is? Let love be love and not change each other.
One of the most common problems in relationships is that women want to "fix" a wounded man with their love. They try in every way to help their partners, but by doing so they are not actually helping them at all, but them they are only trying to change.
When you try to change someone who needs "fixing", you hope to get to a point where things seem "fixed", "perfect", but they never will be. You have to accept him as he is, if you can't accept his mistakes, find another partner.
Signs that he is your real partner and not your project
1. It doesn't hinder you, but pushes you first, encourages you to be better.
2. It doesn't push you away from pursuing your dreams and passions. Instead, it supports and encourages you. It gives you hope, in moments when you feel like you can't do it anymore, you'd rather give up.
3. Your friendship is as strong as your love.
4. He is your best friend, who is by your side even in moments when everything is not perfect.
5. Understands the importance of giving and receiving.
6. Realizes that a successful relationship takes two people, who invest in the relationship, strive to have a successful relationship. That they will be there for each other, when one falls, when he is tired, sick, the other is there for him.
7. Communication is his priority.
8. Encourages you, shows interest and curiosity about your perspective and needs. During disagreements, he strives to reach a compromise and does not shy away from challenging conversation.
9. He's not afraid to apologize. Partners in healthy relationships apologize when they misbehave. In unhealthy relationships, they deny their disrespectful behavior. A partner who admits that he was wrong, that he made a mistake, looks at you as an equal partner.
10. He doesn't blame you or blame you when you make mistakes. A partner who doesn't point the finger at you when you make a mistake, no matter what you do, offers compassion and forgiveness as he focuses on solving the problem.
11. He is there for you when you have hard days, when you are going through hard times.
Both feel loved and wanted. Someone who feels like your "project" will expect you to do most of the work, they won't put in the effort. You will feel that it is a one-sided relationship.
A true partner is the one who is there for you when you feel like everything is falling apart, that your world is falling apart. Whether you're sick, or maybe you've lost someone, you've been laid off at work, or whatever, he's there to ease your pain.
If you're with someone who always finds excuses to not be around you, that's not a person you want around you. Say goodbye to such a person without hesitation. Your effort will be in vain no matter what you do for it. Some "projects" are not worth your time. Find a person with whom you will accept each other's faults and will not want to change each other. A partnership should be full of love and not a project in which everything will be the way only you or he wants it to be.
