If you want to be calm, you have to decide what makes you happy, what is good enough for you, successful, stable, beautiful, safe, valuable... You have to decide what is a good way of life for you - from the clothes you wear, and the food you eat through the work you do. From the career you build to the relationships and connections you make. It's all your decision.
When you decide what is enough for you, it means that you are starting from a constant effort to improve your life. If you don't know this, then others are setting standards for you that may be too low or unattainable for you. Instead of being calm and fulfilled, you will feel that it is not enough for you, or you will feel that you are inadequate.
If you don't decide what is enough for you, you will never achieve peace, you will constantly be missing something. You'll think you can do better, that you haven't given it your all, that you're not good enough. It is a black hole for your emotions and stability.
Such a decision is not easy. You need courage and clarity of thought to reject the prejudices that prevent you from deciding what is enough for you. Because what you have to do is different from anything you have been taught to do.
The question is not which is the ideal solution, but what do you actually need to be enough and feel satisfied?
This is not about imagining a dream life, but about a peaceful, happy existence. Finding something that you can be happy with for the rest of your life, even if you don't make a single step forward in anything.
When you decide what you need, you realize how little you really need. And you can relax.
You no longer have to adapt and meet the expectations of either your own or others. You don't have to constantly work on the best version of yourself and strive for something you can become. You can be happy with who you are, where you are.
When you decide what is enough for you, magic happens - everything around you starts to be enough.
By finally realizing what you really need, you set lower criteria for what you need to achieve. It's not about the line of least resistance, it's about accepting yourself and your life. You can freely enjoy life, you don't have to constantly fix, improve, prove something.
Because by deciding what is enough for you, you become enough. You begin to behave like a person who is worthy, successful. This is how you show your worth. You become happy with yourself and from a place of pleasure you can create what satisfies you. Do it now. Decide that what you have is enough for you.
If you are not happy with who you are, you will never be happy, no matter how much you change. If you don't value your relationships, you will never have relationships to value.
Allow yourself to be satisfied, to have enough of what you have, where you are and what you are!
