Love is NOT a bargaining chip: don't let pleasure separate you from true love!

Usually, love includes all of the above, but there is one thing that categorically distinguishes love from everything else, and that is desire to share. That is, we share everything - in terms of our life and time in it - with another person. And not only to satisfy our needs at this expense (to have sex, to have financial benefits, to be admired and to satisfy our desires), but because, because we have RELATIONSHIP! This is our joint project, which is not always simple and does not always consist only of pleasures, but it has a lot of potential and requires a lot effort, trust, commitment, time, generosity, affection, acceptance, patience, sincerity, kindness and admiration. This is the value of a relationship - when we use our joint powers to create something in common, to trust each other, to support each other, to love ourselves, each other and the things that are OURS.

But what if it seems that we have stopped believing in this, that today we only believe in loot and pleasure. We have become superficial and cowardly, we are afraid to trust and get attachedi. We do not believe in love and friendship, and on our way we encourage things that we should actually be ashamed of: pettiness, meanness, slander and hypocrisy. We have obviously changed these into the attributes of a successful and determined person, an adult independent person, not stupid, even educated, a cosmopolitan who prefers these "open relationships" (no one owes anything to anyone).

There has been a change in concepts. Something terrible happened, which always happens when irresponsible people get their hands on a good idea. And so it is, let's say independence turned into an infantile unwillingness to work on relationships, invest in them, be honest and choose those paths that benefit and do not harm the relationship, even if you have to give up something very tempting here and there. No, all this has clearly lost its value.

It became normal, yes we talk behind our friends' backs and jump over fences. When someone speaks badly of an acquaintance at a party, he does not hit him, ignore him, turn away or leave the company, but listens to him and toasts him. When someone in a relationship who even says the magic words "I love you" shamelessly jumps over the fence and brags about it, society does not label him as a hypocrite who cheats, does not ignore him, but remains a good friend who can freely decide what to do with his/her relationships, because you say, "he has too much temper, too much sexual appetite"? He's not a bastard, he's not a liar.

And we encourage all of this – being inactive, indifferent and politically-damn-correct!
As we know: what a person encourages in relation to other people, he often feels on his own skin.

But perhaps it is best to just destroy it all at once, by mutual consent and for money. And even though we want this person, we're discovering new things with them, we're fascinated by what they do and how they make us feel, it's all going to fizzle out anyway, so it's better to make sure you have more suitable suitors available today .

But it just doesn't work that way! Ljrunning away is NOT a bargaining chip!