How to understand that we love someone? Do we want to be with this person forever? That's the attraction. Are we curious with him? This is friendship. Do we admire what he does and how cool he does it? That's respect. Do we like the way he treats us and how he makes us feel? This self-love.
Usually, love includes all of the above, but there is one thing that categorically distinguishes love from everything else, and that is desire to share. That is, we share everything - in terms of our life and time in it - with another person. And not only to satisfy our needs at this expense (to have sex, to have financial benefits, to be admired and to satisfy our desires), but because, because we have RELATIONSHIP! This is our joint project, which is not always simple and does not always consist only of pleasures, but it has a lot of potential and requires a lot effort, trust, commitment, time, generosity, affection, acceptance, patience, sincerity, kindness and admiration. This is the value of a relationship - when we use our joint powers to create something in common, to trust each other, to support each other, to love ourselves, each other and the things that are OURS.
This is the value of a relationship - when you use your combined strengths to create something in common, to trust each other, to support each other, to love yourself, each other and the things that are YOURS.But what if it seems that we have stopped believing in this, that today we only believe in loot and pleasure. We have become superficial and cowardly, we are afraid to trust and get attachedi. We do not believe in love and friendship, and on our way we encourage things that we should actually be ashamed of: pettiness, meanness, slander and hypocrisy. We have obviously changed these into the attributes of a successful and determined person, an adult independent person, not stupid, even educated, a cosmopolitan who prefers these "open relationships" (no one owes anything to anyone).
There has been a change in concepts. Something terrible happened, which always happens when irresponsible people get their hands on a good idea. And so it is, let's say independence turned into an infantile unwillingness to work on relationships, invest in them, be honest and choose those paths that benefit and do not harm the relationship, even if you have to give up something very tempting here and there. No, all this has clearly lost its value.
There has been a change in concepts.
And we encourage all of this – being inactive, indifferent and politically-damn-correct!
As we know: what a person encourages in relation to other people, he often feels on his own skin.
But perhaps it is best to just destroy it all at once, by mutual consent and for money. And even though we want this person, we're discovering new things with them, we're fascinated by what they do and how they make us feel, it's all going to fizzle out anyway, so it's better to make sure you have more suitable suitors available today .
But it just doesn't work that way! Ljrunning away is NOT a bargaining chip!
