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Sometimes it's you who needs to change, not others!

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Sometimes you are toxic. Instead of blaming the people around you or the universe, sometimes you have to take responsibility for your own actions. You have to look in the mirror and realize that you haven't done your best lately, you haven't reached your full potential.

This doesn't mean you should start hating yourself for everything you've done wrong. It also doesn't mean you should talk about what you did wrong. It just means that you should work on how to change your behavior.

When you realize you've made a mistake and you're disappointed, it's actually a good thing because you see your own toxic traits.

The first step to change is recognizing that there is a problem

Once you know there is something you need to improve on, you can start working on improving yourself. You can take the necessary steps to change yourself into a better person.

Sometimes you are the one who needs to change, even if it's hard for you to see it

It's easier to blame other people and circumstances for your problems. But sometimes you are part of the problem – you. If you hang up the phone because someone makes you angry, you can blame them for your anger. But you have only yourself to blame for reacting to your anger.

You may not be able to control how you feel when someone hurts you, but you have complete control over the actions you take in response to these feelings. You have more power than you allow yourself to realize.

Listen to yourself! Photo: Jonas Svidras / Unsplash

While it's never a bad idea to work on yourself, you should do it because you want to, not because someone else has convinced you that something is wrong with you and insisted that you are the problem.

Sometimes toxic people refuse to take responsibility for their actions. Sometimes they will manipulate you into feeling like you are the one who needs to change, even though they were the source of the problem.

Don't listen to anyone who says you're too emotional

They may be hiding behind their words. They may be trying to turn the situation around, in a way that they can blame you, just so they don't have to bother thinking about themselves.

Sometimes there are real problems

Sometimes both can be the problem. You and the other person. Perhaps both have faults that should be changed. You can act like your own worst enemy, but it's dangerous to assume that everyone is against you.

Be aware of yourself

You must realize that you have good and bad qualities, weaknesses and strengths. You are not perfect, you make mistakes and if you admit them and learn from them, you have grown as a person.

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