Do you schedule sex like you schedule a doctor's appointment? Do you remember your sex life before marriage? Do you make love once or twice a month? Or at all? If you answered yes to these questions, you are one of 20 % couples who are stuck in a relationship with little or no sex.
Sex is an extremely important part of any partnership. When it's good, it gives its partners the opportunity to enjoy physical pleasure, connecting them emotionally and spiritually. It strengthens their sense of connection, closeness and intimacy.
When they are partners satisfied with her sex life, they cope more easily with the challenges of a romantic relationship, as well as life in general. After all, sex is what defines the relationship between partners and what makes this community different from the one they have with other people.
But if sex becomes rare and unsatisfactory for one or both partners, this can greatly affect the quality of the relationship, and if something is not taken care of, it usually leads to infidelity or divorce.
If sex happens less than once every two weeks or less than 25 times a year, we're talking about a relationship with little sex. If a couple has sex less than once a month or less than 10 times a year, they are considered to be stuck in a sexless relationship. Every fifth married couple belongs to this category, and about 15 % fall into the category of couples with little sex. One in three couples who have been together for more than two years create a union without sex.
If we take a closer look at these statistics, we can conclude that it is lack of sex is a fairly common problem.
The question is - what led to partners who once had a satisfying sex life to find themselves in this relationship?
Decreased sex drive and relationships with little or no sex usually do not have just one cause, nor is one partner solely responsible. Sexuality is complicated and it is most beneficial to seeing the lack of sex as a partner problem.
There are many causes that lead to a decrease in sexual desire and they vary from couple to couple.
Instead of feeling sorry for yourself and blaming someone else, get moving and do something, and we're here to help you by introducing you to three of the most common sex-killer mistakes.
A total of 3,863 men and women in permanent relationships were interviewed for the study.
18 percent of women and 26 percent of men said they had problems with their sexuality, and their answers included these obvious sex killers.
"I was tired." (women: 46 percent, men: 31 percent)
"Stress at work." (women: 44 percent, men: 33 percent)
"I just wanted to cuddle and nothing more." (women: 32 percent, men: 11 percent)
"I had concerns." (e.g. personal, professional, family; women: 31 percent, men: 20 percent)
"No one took the initiative." (women: 31 percent, men: 33 percent)
"I didn't feel attractive." (women: 24 percent, men: 7 percent)
"I was angry with my partner." (women: 22 percent, men: 15 percent)
"We were too busy with TV, series, smartphones, etc." (women: 16 percent, men: 12 percent)
"I had a headache." (women: 14 percent, men: 7 percent)
"I just didn't find the partner attractive." (e.g. due to hygiene, clothing style, figure; women: 10 percent, men: 8 percent)
"I was worried that the neighbors or children would hear us." (women: 9 percent, men: 7 percent)
"The environment/ambience did not suit." (women: 6 percent, men: 5 percent)
“I had another man/woman in mind.” (women: 3 percent, men: 3 percent)
