Even men can sometimes lose their desire for sex, which does not mean that the problem is with his partner.
At the beginning of a love relationship and in the first years of marriage, a man and a woman cannot take their hands off each other. They look for every little opportunity to be intimate. Physical attraction and sexuality are part of healthy love.
"As men age, it's natural for them to have a slightly reduced sex drive," he says dr. Jeanne O'Connell . According to the research published in the Journal of Nurse Practitioners, men's sexual intimacy begins to decline around age 45 and then continues to decline with age.
Why? There may be physiological reasons, such as changes in blood flow and hormone levels. Other barriers may include the man's health, inability to ejaculate, lack of trust between partners, and a general decrease in desire for sexual activity regardless of feelings for the female partner.
Still trying to keep the passion alive in the bedroom, but feel your partner's/husband's libido starting to drop? Maybe this makes you feel hurt and confused?
Read what reasons experts see in the loss of sexual desire in men.
1. Work means everything to him/it excites him
When you think of a mistress, an image of another woman probably automatically pops into your head. But the "mistress" who takes all the attention and affection of a man can actually be his job. "When men are passionately committed to their careers, they can feel sexual arousal that would normally be directed at their wives," says neuropsychologist Sydney Ceruto. “Acknowledgments, money and ego boosted by regular praise, promotions can turn them on (excited)” he adds. Try to talk with your partner about how you can balance your work and partnership obligations, what boundaries you can set for yourself to leave work at the door of the bedroom.
2. Lower testosterone levels
According to an article recently published in the magazine Urology testosterone levels decrease rapidly with age - from the age of 30 to 0.4 to 2 percent per year. In addition to low libido, symptoms of low testosterone can include decreased energy, low mood, fatigue, muscle loss, and even erectile dysfunction, says Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, professor at Harvard. According to the words dr. Morgentaler as many as 97 percent of men who have low testosterone levels feel a negative impact on their sex life. Fortunately on Mayo Clinic they say the condition can be treated with hormone replacement therapy, stress management and counseling.
3. Male menopause or andropause
Menopause? Rarely mentioned as if it doesn't exist. However, it can be fertile and the medical term for it is andropause. Describes a decline in testosterone levels in men. But there is no need to worry, it does not happen suddenly or intensely. dr. O'Connell suggests that women do not take these changes personally. Maybe he once wanted to rip all your clothes off your body, but today he doesn't even notice a new hairstyle or skirt. The reason may simply be biological, not psychological. Instead of "trying", talk to him about his sexual feelings and needs, as well as your own.
4. He enjoys adult movies too much
The spread and availability of adult films on the Internet has led to an ever-increasing consumption of such content. According to scientists from University of Indiana and University of Hawaii men who watched them regularly experienced much less pleasure with their partners, in terms of romantic attachment and intimacy. Addiction to these types of movies can have devastating consequences for a relationship. "When a man is addicted to adult films, he relies on it to arouse himself instead of relying on his wife," explains psychologist Les Parrott . Adult movie addiction can be similar to cocaine addiction because of the neurochemicals that flood the human brain. "Research has shown that these types of films raise unrealistic expectations about what sex should be like. This makes men less satisfied with their partners.” If you suspect that your husband is sexually satisfied with adult films, it is necessary to find a solution by recognizing the problem, talking, as well as with the help of professionals.
5. Anxiety can be the cause of low libido
Premature ejaculation and delayed ejaculation can be a common problem men with erectile dysfunction (ED) and can certainly affect his self-image. "Erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and delayed ejaculation can have different causes, but their common factors - frustration, anxiety and feelings of inadequacy - can lead to sexual problems," he says dr. Ceruto. Erectile dysfunction is mainly treated with medication and psychological counseling.
6. Obesity
Yes, it is possible for weight to reduce your partner's desire for intimacy. A study , published in the Journal of Education and Health Promotion, found that obesity and lack of physical activity increase sexual dysfunction in 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men. "Diabetes and obesity reduce sexual activity. High body weight and poor self-image destroy intimacy, which is the basis for the possibility of sexual intercourse. says the author Eric Palsker . Among other things, exercise increases endorphins, which will make people feel better and at the same time eat healthier. "People who eat heavy, fatty or overly sweet foods can feel tired and sluggish, not sexy,” he adds.
7. Stress and financial problems
Can work overload or financial insecurity really interfere with libido? "Those who are under a lot of stress often lose their sex drive temporarily," says dr. Plaster. It's clear that you can't eliminate the source of stress or easily get rid of a financial deficit and burden, but you can encourage a man to make simple changes that will improve his health and libido.
