Being sad, depressed, nihilistic and defeated is a human condition that is familiar to everyone - but it is necessary to distinguish between occasional and manageable hardships and between serious forms of depression, bipolar disorder and other conditions that threaten an individual's life. If you are sad for a long period of time, lose interest in things you used to enjoy, have trouble sleeping, and/or have suicidal thoughts, then you should seek professional help. If it is a short period of grief, you can try to expand your world and thoughts with the Focus-Wheel method.
The method Focus-Wheel is a process by which you can you help with motivation and especially when you lose hope. When life gets in the way of your plans, when you are rejected or when reality doesn't match your hopes, it's completely understandable that you start to doubt yourself, and sometimes even question the point of it all.
Drop everything you're doing and do this thing:
- Take a sheet of paper and draw in the middle a small circle. Draw a circle around this circle as large as possible.
- Close your eyes and relax. consider why do you feel so bad. Try to define concrete thing, which puts you in such a bad mood. Did someone reject you? Did you do something wrong? Disappointed with the outcome? Feeling out of control?
- Work out what you are you want and what you don't want about this experience/problem. So determine your goals and what you would like to avoid. Try to combine this in a nutshell (eg I want to get a job).
- Open your eyes. In the middle of the small circle, write this short story, which represents your goal/what you want to avoid.
- Around a small circle, inside a bigger circle, write down your thoughts regarding this goal. What will be the obstacles on the way to achieve this goal? What should you use? What are you already close to this goal? Who can help you? How long will you last?
- You are a circle stick in a visible place. It will help you when you doubt yourself.
