Do you believe in illusions about love that leave you disappointed time and time again? Do you think that love should be like a fairy tale?
Although we live in modern times, some myths and beliefs are still relevant, especially in the field of relationships. The problem arises when, for people, these imaginary and idealized representations are shattered, and they face great disappointment.
Let's look at some myths that tend to end in disappointment because they have no basis in reality.
Love can only be experienced with a special person
Series and movies that idealize love have contributed a lot to this. Because of this, many may wait for their special "prince or princess", and on the way reject those people who, according to their understanding, are ordinary. In this way, they miss out on good opportunities to start a relationship with partners with whom the relationship would have a future.
If love is real, sex is great too
This is a double trap. Two people can love and respect each other, but their sexuality can be bad because they don't consider each other's needs and desires. You can love your partner and have different preferences when it comes to intimacy.
The sex may be great, but that does not mean that there are deeper feelings between these people. It can only be physical pleasure and nothing more. Reducing love to sex is wrong.
Love is passion
This myth leads to the fact that when the passion subsides after a few months, people begin to doubt the sincerity of their feelings. They believe that the partner has cooled down, that he has become indifferent, but this has nothing to do with emotions. In love, there is a biochemical mechanism that has its own rhythm.
Decreasing the intensity of passion is a normal and common process, since the body cannot be in a state of affect for a long time. Therefore, stabilizing and replacing passion with tenderness and strong attachment is normal and desirable, as it is a guarantee of a long-term relationship in which the couple communicates and solves common life tasks, and not just satisfies their physical needs.
Love has the power to change everything and everyone
When you fall in love, you feel changes in yourself and your behavior. But that doesn't mean that someone will automatically change for the better just because they fell in love. For change to occur, the person must want it and initiate it. But not because someone expects or wants it. It's not love that changes you, but your desire to be better.
This myth brought a lot of disappointment to those who failed to save their loved ones from bad habits or society. But the key is not in love, but in each individual.
