How to stop thinking about another person: 20 steps to help you move on

MAKE YOUR DECISION AND DO IT

The first step to moving forward in life is to decide that you're ready, even if you're not. Believe it or not, the best decisions are the ones you're not ready to make. So do them and forget about the person who fills your mind with nonsense.

MAKE IT END

Do what you have to do to get this person out of your mind. If you need to talk to her, do so. If you must write to her, do so. Then do the next thing - focus on something else, not her. On ourselves.

MISS HIM/HER AND THEN STOP - STOP

Give in to your feelings, be angry, be frustrated, scream, cry and then stop it. Just be happy, because there are still so many beautiful moments in life ahead of you. Love, laughter, happiness, hugs.

THINK OF SOMETHING ELSE

If you feel that you need to replace one face with another, one person with another, to make it easier to forget a person, do so, but only to the extent that is acceptable. You must never hurt another person in the same way that others hurt you.

DO NOT LOOK FOR HIM/HER

You don't stay where you know it will be. Don't go to mutual friends' parties. Don't eat where he/she is and move on.

DON'T ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL BAD

If you feel guilty because the relationship didn't work out, because it all fell apart, stop now! There are always two people in a relationship, and everyone carries their own guilt, their own reasons for something not working out. Not just you. Remember this!

STAY "OFFLINE"

Block him/her on social media or at least unfollow him/her. If you don't know what he/she is doing, you won't think about him/her as much. Keep your distance, distance yourself, even if it's forever.

DON'T FIGHT YOURSELF

Nothing good comes from feeling bad. Think instead of what could have been if everything had ended like this. Maybe even worse? Relationships end and the world moves on. Give yourself space to feel yourself, to compose yourself, and then continue on your way.

GO SOMEWHERE

Take the time to go on a trip, have a drink with a friend, just get out of your safe haven where your thoughts dominate.

HANG OUT WITH FRIENDS

Be with people who are happy to have you, to be with them, to be here - now.

LAUGH TO YOURSELF

Even though you feel like you are dying inside, it is imperative to remind yourself that life goes on and that you will be happy again. Not today, not tomorrow, but after a while for sure. Believe in it.

HAVE FUN, YOU'RE ALLOWED

Don't just sit on the couch and feel sorry for yourself. Go among the people. If you don't feel like partying, go anyway.

DON'T BELIEVE YOUR THOUGHTS

If you think that you have not forgotten your ex-partner, but everything points to the fact that you have, think about it and explore where such thoughts come from. Accept the fact that you are afraid to accept responsibility for the future. Be excited about change in your life instead of fearing change. Give them a chance, you won't regret it. Believe me.

BE MERCILESS

No one is going to live your life for you. Once you realize this, it will be easier, you will be able to live again and move on. Otherwise wounded, but with new experiences. Be ruthless in your approach to getting over your ex. No matter how well you two got along, you decided to break up with him for one reason or another. Is he with you. So instead of focusing on the good or the bad in the relationship and getting caught up in the drama in your mind, go ahead and do what you want without them. Just move on. You have to want to get better, no one can do it for you!

BE FEARLESS

Remember that you were fine before you met your ex, and you will be again, soon. Many people make the mistake of focusing all their hopes, dreams, and love on one person. But then they realize that he/she is not the person they thought he/she was and they fall apart. It would have been better to have ended this relationship a long time ago and started it with someone else.

REMOVE HIM/HER FROM YOUR LIFE

Don't pretend you can still be friends with this person. Remove everything that ever connected or reminded you of her. It's not about denying the relationship, it's about focusing on the relationship with yourself instead. You are who you live with every day.

BET ON YOURSELF

Make sure you spend some time alone to get to know each other again. Remember what you liked about yourself before you surrendered to another person. What were you like? You usually require your partners to show you constant attention, you look for the meaning of life in them. But the meaning of life is you yourself! Focus on yourself and next time let your partner focus on themselves and grow together as individuals and as a couple. Remember this!

BE BRAVE

Courage is an important part of recovery because you have to rediscover who you are, what you like, where you want to go. Maybe there's a new opportunity in front of you that you almost missed while checking his/her Instagram profile every five minutes. Don't let life pass you by!

BE A GOOD FRIEND

If you can't be good to yourself, be good to someone else. Be a friend to someone who needs you, maybe even more than you need them.

APPRECIATE YOURSELF

Sometimes when you can't stop thinking about someone, you believe that if we could meet again and start over, everything would be perfect. Sometimes it might be true. Sometimes relationships work out great, but not always. You can only be happy if you are happy with yourself and together with this person. If not, don't take a second chance.

Don't look for happiness outside of yourself if you haven't found it within yourself first. When you love yourself, you will be able to offer love to another person. The real one, who will discover the secrets with you - of you and of life.