Many people find it unbelievable that so many people find themselves in a dangerous relationship with a toxic, abusive or even violent person, and at the same time, many people feel ashamed that they end up in relationships that are far from healthy. The first step to ending this hellish cycle is to identify your patterns and find the reason why you are not choosing people who deserve you and know how to appreciate you. We have prepared for you the 4 most common reasons why we find ourselves in unhealthy relationships.
1. We have unresolved issues with our parents
Lots of people visiting therapy finds that many events in their lives they represent a mirror of their childhood and that they find themselves again and again in situations, similar to those they experienced or seen in early years. This applies especially to relations: research shows that women who have unresolved relationships with your own fathers, they often choose men whom they love as partners they don't know how to return or show– men they consciously or subconsciously believe they can "repair" and so make up for days of pain, caused to them by their father.
Of course, such relationships rarely end good: you should never get into a relationship with the goal of getting a person changed or to deal with the pain this relationship brings you reconciled.
2. We feel uncomfortable with security and peace
Have you ever been friends? complained, that the one who showed interest in you, "too friendly" or even boring? That you need more in romance challenges and adrenaline and that you're more attracted to someone you never know what you're up to?
There is nothing wrong with dreaming of a relationship, a full one actions and excitement. However, you should be aware that this must not be the case reason, to give a chance toxic or even dangerous person. You are not in the world for the sake of your well-being rescued troubled partners and you can just as well receive a thrill from someone who will you appreciated and loved in a healthy way.
3. We have low self-esteem
The reason is that we attract partners who like us they don't respect, often lies in our low self-esteem. It also affects the fact that in such a connection we stay, although it only brings us new pains. That's because deep down we believe you are we don't deserve better and we can't to get, which could not be further from the truth.
You should be aware that your attitude towards oneself sets standard for how others will treat you. Yes, there will always be people who they will not appreciate, but you will to them if you will respected themselves, quickly showed that for them space it is not in your life.
4. We are afraid to be alone.
It carries a lot of people in it fear before that left alone. Loneliness is a feeling that can cause one of the worst mental pains, so this is by no means surprising, but there should be no such fear reason, to let yourself down a toxic person. You should be aware that it is to be alone much better than suffer in the relationship with someone who you does not return love, village offends is it even up to you? violent. And not only that - in this way you will also be missed the opportunity, to meet someone who would treat you the way you are you earn.
If you feel like he often pushes you into new relationships fear of loneliness, it is imperative that before every new relationship you feel good about yourself think about it: I am attracted to this person because we have similar values, because she showed that me values... or the cause lies in mine of fear? Only in this way will you avoided unhealthy relationship and step a step closer to a relationship that will truly fulfill you.
