The negative things they said about you were not true. Even though that person may be gone from your life forever, you can't wave a magic wand and forget all the things they said to you and how bad they made you feel.
However, it is possible to learn to love yourself even if you hated each other for so long because of this relationship. It will take some time, but you will feel good again.
Your confidence will grow. Your self-worth will grow. You just have to remember that none of the things this person said about you were true. You deserve love.
No one needs to understand what you've been through. Let them judge you. They have no idea what you've been through and they don't have to explain it. You don't have to reveal your trauma to make your decision.
If you want to share your experience, don't hold back. You are allowed to reveal your story to the world. But if you want to keep it to yourself, that's fine too. You don't owe anyone an explanation. This is your life. Not theirs. It doesn't matter if they approve of what you did. It's just important that you know it's right for you.
When you leave a toxic relationship, you may wonder if every relationship ends this way. It won't, because such a relationship is not healthy. It's not what you deserve.
And even though it's hard to imagine right now, there are people who will be with you behaved better. People who will be respectful and kind even when they are angry. You will find love again.
You may feel guilty or stupid for allowing someone to hurt you so badly, but never blame yourself. You can't control a toxic person—or any person.
It doesn't matter how much you love them or how much time you spend on them or how much you try to help them see their faults. You have no control over them. You have to let them go. And move on with your life.
Be proud of yourself. It doesn't matter how long it took you to leave. It doesn't matter if you feel like you've wasted a huge chunk of your time. Your feelings are valid. Realize how brave you are.
