Writer, husband and father Mike Berry explained on his blog why his wife is more important than his children and why every family should adopt this mindset.
His contribution has achieved immense popularity on the internet, some people condemn him while others share his opinion. Mike and his wife Kristin are raising eight adopted children and have been happily married for 17 years. They are also socially active and help other families to face problems and build a harmonious relationship.
The Berry family (Photo: confessionsofanadoptiveparent.com)Read his below interesting post and tell us in the comments if you agree with his opinion.
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It's usually 8.30pm when I tell my teenage daughter what time it is for the first time. And then at 21:00 I tell them to go to the room. I do this every night and they argue with me every time: "Why do we have to sleep at 9:00 PM? We are not children anymore!"
"You don't have to go to bed yet, I'm just asking you to leave the living room. My mother and I didn't see each other all day because we were at work. We need time to be together."
The daughters roll their eyes.
We have been parents for more than 15 years and our children have never "stolen" all our time. My wife and I spend a lot of time with them, but never 24/7. We love our children and of course they play a big role in our lives. They can always count on us and get help and support from us.
But along with the children, there is also "us". Our relationship. There are several reasons why Kristin and I keep our marriage strong.
1. A healthy marriage is the cornerstone of a home
Children are not the foundation of your family. They are a big part, but they are not the ones who maintain this chaotic structure we call family. The most important part of the family is you and your wife, you and your husband, your partner. You are the one who bears the responsibility. And children choose their paths according to your example.
2. Before "us" was "we"
Before children existed, we were "us". We fell in love, spent time together, talked on the phone all night and then decided to be together forever. And we started a family. We got wonderful children and of course we are lucky to have them. But our marriage is sacred. And we must do everything to protect it.
Before "we" we were "we".3. After "us" it will be "us" again
Nothing lasts forever. There will come a time when the children will be adults and leave the nest. I don't know about you, but there is no room for a 30-year-old in this house. So when they leave our house, have their own family and their own children, I would like the lady's relationship with my wife to remain as strong and intimate as it was at the very beginning. And in order for us to have such a future, we must now work on our relationship. Our relationship must be a priority. Of course, this is not as easy as it seems.
4. We must be an example
Children learn from us. They do what we do, they follow our every step. I want our marriage to be an example to them!
At the end of the day, we are all tired and stressed. And yes, your children need you, they are important and you need to take care of them. But first, take care of your relationship with your wife, your relationship with your husband. When children see their parents love each other, they will be convinced that you love them too.
We spend the whole day with our children. And that's why I ask them to go to their rooms every night at 9:00 p.m. That's why my wife and I have a date night twice a month and go out. Because it matters.
And that's why my wife is more important than my children.
